Author taqiy Posted June 30, 2011 Author Posted June 30, 2011 to ijester and reservoir thanks. my gut told me the same thing. and molimo thanks man! im crushed right now 100%. but ill bounce back. i guess time heals everything. but i feel like the soul has been sucked out of me right now to be honest. im emotionally drained. it has me questioning a lot of stuff? i mean how could someone plan to move with and marry in the coming months be like this?? God willing she isnt pregnant!!
TigerCub Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 From your initial post: "I approached her about it and she admitted to hiding the #. It was her boss. Funny thing is she has a phone # of his in her phone under his real name. Then this other # under a womens name. It kills me because I've been so upfront and honest with her. She said she wasn't cheating with him. And that she hid his number because she wasn't comfortable telling me it was him if they had regular conversations with him so she pretended it was a girl. " That in bold alone proves her new story to be complete bs. If she now says that she put his number under a girl's name because people might see blah blah, then why is there an entry for him in her phone under his real name as well???? Your girl is dumb. Nothing I hate more than a liar, but a bad liar is just extra insulting! I honestly think your should dump her, but if you still want to test out the plan & get her to confess you can still do that. I think she's full of s**t and she's playing you. If you believe her she'll just think you're a fool and keep lying and betraying you. I'm so sorry for the pain you're feeling right now. Remember though, tomorrow is another day, and there are PLENTY PLENTY of fish in the sea. You'll find someone way better than her, because you'll find someone you can trust that will honor your relationship. This girl is just a waste.
vsmini Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 Every phone I've ever seen comes with a lock function where you can punch in a password. Story sounds so bogus.
samspade Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 Here is my oft-repeated philosophy... Instead of trying to prove she's cheating, or get a confession out of her, just accept that she is indulging in Terrible Girlfriend Behavior. Anything she is doing that causes you to be this suspicious qualifies as TGB. Unless she has an obvious, you're-a-fool explanation (and it better be airtight), she is already guilty of TGB, which is grounds for dismissal. Why do I say this? It's simple. A woman fully vested in her boyfriend/husband would NEVER engage in behavior that would arouse his suspicion and drive up the risk of her losing him. A woman with low interest in, or low respect for, her sig. other doesn't care. She fools around, has her fun, and if he finds out and dumps, she's free of him. If he never finds out, she's had her cake and eaten it, too. Sure, if you dump your GF, she'll cry and plead and ask you to take her back. That means nothing - she is saving face and humiliation and realizing what she messed up. But deep down, her interest in you is sufficiently low for her to lie, flirt with others, possibly F this guy, etc. At the very least, cared so little about what you'd think that she hid a man's number on her phone. So even if nothing else happens, she didn't for once think, "what will my bf think of me if he finds out I've hidden another man's number on my phone? That's kind of sketchy and he might get the wrong idea." Nope - she just did it, now she's caught, and you should dump.
tigressA Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 Here is my oft-repeated philosophy... Instead of trying to prove she's cheating, or get a confession out of her, just accept that she is indulging in Terrible Girlfriend Behavior. Anything she is doing that causes you to be this suspicious qualifies as TGB. Unless she has an obvious, you're-a-fool explanation (and it better be airtight), she is already guilty of TGB, which is grounds for dismissal. Why do I say this? It's simple. A woman fully vested in her boyfriend/husband would NEVER engage in behavior that would arouse his suspicion and drive up the risk of her losing him. A woman with low interest in, or low respect for, her sig. other doesn't care. She fools around, has her fun, and if he finds out and dumps, she's free of him. If he never finds out, she's had her cake and eaten it, too. Sure, if you dump your GF, she'll cry and plead and ask you to take her back. That means nothing - she is saving face and humiliation and realizing what she messed up. But deep down, her interest in you is sufficiently low for her to lie, flirt with others, possibly F this guy, etc. At the very least, cared so little about what you'd think that she hid a man's number on her phone. So even if nothing else happens, she didn't for once think, "what will my bf think of me if he finds out I've hidden another man's number on my phone? That's kind of sketchy and he might get the wrong idea." Nope - she just did it, now she's caught, and you should dump. Best advice in the whole thread, particularly the bold. You don't need to find out if she's cheating; she's guilty of enough shady s*it already. Get to the bottom of the barrel if you wish, OP, but you don't have to do that in order to feel justified in dumping her.
rafallus Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 I agree. People are too concerned with evidence, when lack of trust is sufficient evidence that you shouldn't be with her. Either that, or you're paranoid - in that case you still shouldn't be with her, but need to recover from paranoia.
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