lilcutiex55 Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 Making a long story short. I have a boyfriend for 3 years now. Our relationship has been up and down, and he constantly did stuff that I didn't approve of, but I stayed in it hoping for a change. I went out with one my friends almost 2 months ago, and met someone, it wasn't my intentions. We hit it off very well, and he's a bartender. We saw each other 2 weeks after we met, no sex, and that's how it went for about a month, then obv the sex happened. He mentioned to me that he was seeing someone else, but they weren't together anymore, I dind't want to get into much details, didn't want him to think I was a psycho or anything, you know how guys think. We see each other once a week, bc of his work hours and mine are completely different, we'are always texting, never really talk on the phone. The past 2 times i went over I saw a girl's tooth brush in his bathroom, then it disappeared, I dind't say anything. Last week he was being standoffish, I barely talked to him, and I confronted him about it, and he said he was just very busy and he didn't talk to anybody not just me, bla bla bla. Saw him yesterday again, and the toothbrush, then it disappeared again lol. He's obv seeing/sleeping with someone else and I would like to know. But then again, I have a boyfriend, I know I love my boyfriend, but why am I thinking about this other guy? Why am I sleeping with this other guy? What's happening to me? I know I'm not doing the right thing, but i can't stop it. And should I even ask him about the toothbrush? Being that I have someone too... but i think that if this guy said he would want to be with me, Id leave my boyfriend to be with him. I dont know what to do?! I've never cheated before, how can I have feelings for two people??
Imajerk17 Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 (edited) I kind of miss the old days where cheating women were taken out back and stoned. Edited June 29, 2011 by Imajerk17
Damien Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 Why ask him? He's obviously seeing someone else, as are you. How about you go and tell that boyfriend 'you love so much' what you've been doing?
nyc_guy2003 Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 First of all, what makes a toothbrush a "woman's toothbrush"? Secondly, how do you know it's not someone like his mom or sister?
oldguy Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 Making a long story short. I have a boyfriend for 3 years now. Our relationship has been up and down, and he constantly did stuff that I didn't approve of, but I stayed in it hoping for a change. I went out with one my friends almost 2 months ago, and met someone, it wasn't my intentions. We hit it off very well, and he's a bartender. We saw each other 2 weeks after we met, no sex, and that's how it went for about a month, then obv the sex happened. He mentioned to me that he was seeing someone else, but they weren't together anymore, I dind't want to get into much details, didn't want him to think I was a psycho or anything, you know how guys think. We see each other once a week, bc of his work hours and mine are completely different, we'are always texting, never really talk on the phone. The past 2 times i went over I saw a girl's tooth brush in his bathroom, then it disappeared, I dind't say anything. Last week he was being standoffish, I barely talked to him, and I confronted him about it, and he said he was just very busy and he didn't talk to anybody not just me, bla bla bla. Saw him yesterday again, and the toothbrush, then it disappeared again lol. He's obv seeing/sleeping with someone else and I would like to know. But then again, I have a boyfriend, I know I love my boyfriend, but why am I thinking about this other guy? Why am I sleeping with this other guy? What's happening to me? I know I'm not doing the right thing, but i can't stop it. And should I even ask him about the toothbrush? Being that I have someone too... but i think that if this guy said he would want to be with me, Id leave my boyfriend to be with him. I dont know what to do?! I've never cheated before, how can I have feelings for two people?? So you and your bf, the one you love but are cheating on, have an open relationship & agreed that sleeping with other people is okay or is this how you are passing time while waiting for him to "change"? You are cheating on your bf & are jealous because the guy you are cheating with is cheating on you or because he is cheating on his gf with you? I'm so confused. Are you trolling, come on. I think you should discuss this with your bf, see if he changes for ya then.
Untouchable_Fire Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 I know I love my boyfriend, but why am I thinking about this other guy? Why am I sleeping with this other guy? What's happening to me? I know I'm not doing the right thing, but i can't stop it. And should I even ask him about the toothbrush? Being that I have someone too... but i think that if this guy said he would want to be with me, Id leave my boyfriend to be with him. I dont know what to do?! I've never cheated before, how can I have feelings for two people?? Ok first... You don't love your BF. In fact you are stringing him along and that is NOT ACCEPTABLE BEHAVIOR! Next you are a booty call for this other guy. He probably already has a steady GF and you are just stupid enough to sleep with him anyways. So, lets recap. You are being selfish, dishonest, and naive. Now... how to fix it. Dump the BF.... you clearly do not love him. Then decide if you want to pursue something with Mr. Bootycall.
oldguy Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 So, lets recap. You are being selfish, dishonest, and naive. Now... how to fix it. Dump the BF.... you clearly do not love him. Then decide if you want to pursue something with Mr. Bootycall. Or you can keep your bf as a booty call of your own & the bartender for variety. [sarcasm]
refurb Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 I kind of miss the old days where cheating women were taken out back and stoned. That seriously made me laugh. RF
alexlakeman Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 Ask him about the toothbrush or... do the following: Write out 10 sticky notes: "loved sucking your D)ck last night" and the date: "loved how you f)cked me on your bed" and the the date... you get it each sticky with a date... Then when he's showering or sleeping, slip them in random places where you think the other female will get to it b4 him (ie kitchen pots and pans, maybe another pink towel, or look for the toothbrush and put it on the tooth brush.. Then let him explain to his gf about all your lovey dovey stickie notes with specific dates on them, lol
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