johnnyriga Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 Hello to all my fellow human beings who are incredibly strong willed like myself to go through a long distance relationship. I still ask myself why I do it sometimes but the simple and obvious truth is that you just know it feels right. I met my girl in college almost 15 months ago and we started to hang out alot. Trouble was she was graduating that semester and I still had a couple more to go before graduation. I suggested long distance and she was very happy. It is tough. Because she has already graduated and working, I get to see her once every 4 months (my term breaks) and everything seemed to be going great until a few weeks ago. The following events took place. We last met in late Feb this year and I just returned home 2 days ago. 1) 3 weeks ago and totally out of the blue, she constantly starts seeking reassurance from me that I love her. I found this odd because throughout the LDR I was the insecure one NOT her. 2) Soon after, she changes her facebook profile picture of us (ie original photo on her profile was of two us together and then it changed to a photo of just her) 3) She cut her hair and got some piercings. At this point, I suspected she is changing not just physically but emotionally. 4) I decided to surprise her by coming back home 1 day earlier than she was expecting. (she was surprised to see me but not pleasantly surprised to see me) 5) AND THE BIGGEST CHANGE: She pushes me away when I try to either hold her hand or kiss her or hug her. She constantly avoids eye contact when talking to me. I ask her what's wrong and her excuse is that I've been away for so long and that she was expecting me one day later. She wasn't ready for me to just turn up like that. My problem: Every single bone in my body tells me she has cheated or is cheating on me and is feeling guilty about it. What do you think guys and gals?
HeavenOrHell Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 Hi there It does sound like she's cheated or maybe wants to be with someone else, or it could be she wants out of your r/ship and doesn't know how to say, but isn't interested in anyone else. Maybe she can't handle the distance and she was trying to work out how strongly you feel about each other when she was seeking reassurance, to see if it's all worth it? How good is your communication? You really need to talk about this. Hello to all my fellow human beings who are incredibly strong willed like myself to go through a long distance relationship. I still ask myself why I do it sometimes but the simple and obvious truth is that you just know it feels right. I met my girl in college almost 15 months ago and we started to hang out alot. Trouble was she was graduating that semester and I still had a couple more to go before graduation. I suggested long distance and she was very happy. It is tough. Because she has already graduated and working, I get to see her once every 4 months (my term breaks) and everything seemed to be going great until a few weeks ago. The following events took place. We last met in late Feb this year and I just returned home 2 days ago. 1) 3 weeks ago and totally out of the blue, she constantly starts seeking reassurance from me that I love her. I found this odd because throughout the LDR I was the insecure one NOT her. 2) Soon after, she changes her facebook profile picture of us (ie original photo on her profile was of two us together and then it changed to a photo of just her) 3) She cut her hair and got some piercings. At this point, I suspected she is changing not just physically but emotionally. 4) I decided to surprise her by coming back home 1 day earlier than she was expecting. (she was surprised to see me but not pleasantly surprised to see me) 5) AND THE BIGGEST CHANGE: She pushes me away when I try to either hold her hand or kiss her or hug her. She constantly avoids eye contact when talking to me. I ask her what's wrong and her excuse is that I've been away for so long and that she was expecting me one day later. She wasn't ready for me to just turn up like that. My problem: Every single bone in my body tells me she has cheated or is cheating on me and is feeling guilty about it. What do you think guys and gals?
cerridwen Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 OP, all three things HeavenOrHell cited are equally plausible, so I'm sorry to be of so little help other than to echo the importance of talking about it--soon.
blugirl Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 Sorry OP but I think she did/does cheat. That's such a typical behaviour, that's exactly how the girl I know was behaving like after she cheated on her bf first time :/
Author johnnyriga Posted June 29, 2011 Author Posted June 29, 2011 it's alrite guys and girls. just a few minutes ago, i managed to make her talk and well i got dumped. so f$%H long distance.
cerridwen Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 it's alrite guys and girls. just a few minutes ago, i managed to make her talk and well i got dumped. so f$%H long distance. Aw, that sucks. Sorry, dude.
JadedAmore Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 Ugh, sorry to hear about your breakup. While I agree LDRs can be hard, try not to place full blame solely upon that factor and remember it can also happen right under your nose. Just keep an open mind and your chin up!
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