desragz Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 So im 23, and recently I have been having a very hard time dating. I'm really starting to believe that no one wants to date me. I'm a slim girl, who is pretty/normal and few guys approach me and we usually have good conversations and then i would exchange contact information with them, but they would never call or text me. This has been happening on a regular basis, and it is really starting to affect my self confidence. Im not a needy person, I dont come on too strong so I just don't get it. Do you guys think that some people go through phases in life where they are extremely unlucky in finding a romantic partner. Its been about a year now that I have been like this.
NicoleM Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 Yes indeed! I have gone through dating droughts and so have alot of my friends. Do not think you are unattractive! Some guys have a type unfourtunely. Some guys like skinny girls with blonde hair some guys like brunettes but are curvy. Maybe you are encountering the wrong guys and they are jerks who like to play games or collect as many numbers as they can. Do not ever put yourself down ok??
SJC2008 Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 First of all, you are young so don't panic. When you exchange contact info are the guys asking or are you offering? Flirt a little, be enthusiastic without overdoing it. Men look for green lights, sometimes a simple smile with eye contact is enough. Aso,luck may have something to do with it. I met two women in one day about 4 months ago and haven't met one since last week (meaning asking for ph#'s/dating potential). That's probably a big drought for most men but for me it is what it is. As far as not feeling attractive let me tell you this. This is my theory on attraction. Attraction cannot be explained. Put two women together, a 6 and a 10 (I know it's not cool to use ratings but have to for my example), if I'm attracted to the 6 she will be prettier than the 10 in my book because I'm ATTRACTED to her. That is what is so cool about attraction. Long story short, I promise you there will be plenty of men who are attracted to you so try to keep your head up
youngskywalker Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 Since you've had men approach you and ask for contact information we can cross "unattractiveness" off the list. Like the above post said, men have different types. No matter what type you are, half the men will find you attractive. So there seems to be another reason why you're not getting dates. From your post I suspect you are actually a very beautiful person. The signals you are sending out to men 'unknowingly' are most likely the reason.
Author desragz Posted June 30, 2011 Author Posted June 30, 2011 thanks a lot for responding, made me feel a lot better. I dont usually offer my number to these guys, they would usually ask for it. thats why im confused. But i will try to look out and manage my behaviour to make sure I dont give out a desperate attitude. I feel a lot better today and hopefully this dry spell will be over soon
grkBoy Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 Do you guys think that some people go through phases in life where they are extremely unlucky in finding a romantic partner. Its been about a year now that I have been like this. Very much...I've had many of those times. I'm sure things will change eventually. You just haven't met the right guy yet. I know most of the women who rejected me ended up actually worse in life. Knocked up, alone, drama, etc. Made me happy they rejected me because I more or less see their "true colors". Always remember (and this goes for everyone) that the goal in life is QUALITY...not quantity.
dispatch3d Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 Guys don't care about the "needy" thing as much as you think. For a lot of guys, girls can be a pain in the ass at the start as far as replying to texts/setting up meetings/etc. I think if you act a little more flirty, friendly, and positive when they get your number - prehaps hinting that your excited to get a text, or "you better text me" - would probably help a ton. Actually I would bet that last quotation thing alone would be more than enough. best of luck! Also - I've never known guys to ask "ugly" girls for numbers then not contact them because they are "ugly". Pretty unlikely. If guys ask for your number regular it means your hot.
numerical25 Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 Dont you worry. The girl I am trying to get with whom I made a post about but no one seems to care to respond to was the same way. I use to over hear her talking to others how no one wanted to date her in high school and even now. She has a very composed personality and most guys dont seem to click with that. She doesnt know that but I notice that about her. But she is very beautiful and I want to talk to her. I went to school with her and never paid her much attention, but I am 26 now and I am starting to realize how rare a girl like that is. You becoming a rare gem, and some guy is going to realize that and wont **** it up.
kiss_andmakeup Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 To be honest, you might just be intimidating to approach. A slim, pretty 23-year-old can be considered a "hot commodity" in the dating world. Personally, I actually get approached by men more when I'm dressed down. I've gone out dressed in cute skirts, classy heels, pretty blouses, hair and make-up all done-up, and no one has the guts to approach me. I go to a bar to watch a game and have a beer, in jeans and my local team's t-shirt, and get approached non-stop. Assess your style as well as the venues in which you attempt to meet men. While these things seem small, they can be huge factors in your approachability.
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