hurley21 Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 I was in the military with this guy 5 years ago. We connected right away, but I was dumb and hung up on a guy who was just messing with my head. Even though I'd get lost in his eyes and we could laugh together and everything felt natural and easy- I never made a move. We had to part ways after I got stationed overseas and he had to stay back and finish his training. Well... 5 years later. I woke up Saturday morning with his eyes in my mind. I couldn't shake the feeling to contact him. I looked him up online and sent him a message. Though he lives in another part of the country, he happened to be in my city visiting a family member. We met up Saturday night and we were, yet again, just magnetically attracted to one another. All of my old feelings came back instantly when I saw him. OF COURSE, he has a girlfriend of two years back at home. This girl is insanely possessive and jealous. She went crazy over him contacting me online. Anyway, he went back home and I am unable to contact him because of her. Last thing I got to say was that he deserved better than that and if he was ever single again, to contact me. He said he knew he deserved better and that he would contact me. Of course, there was no time frame given, or even some remote hint that maybe he'd want to be with me and/or is leaving his girlfriend. I know I should let it go, but my gut just tells me that this is the one. I can't do anything but wait at this point. He may never contact me again, but I can't let go of the hope that he will.
youngskywalker Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 I know I should let it go, but my gut just tells me that this is the one. I can't do anything but wait at this point. You've done everything you need to do. Now it's time to back WAY off and let the chips fall. He knows what he might have had with you, so let him experience the loss. Maybe he'll come around. Just a word of caution though. I know your gut is telling you that he is "the one" but IME there is no such thing. Give it a little time and you'll find a guy that is better! You might think he is the one, but if he doesn't feel the same as you do then he isn't right for you. It's just a fantasy you've made up in your head. You'll be so much happier putting your time and effort in to a person who goes full circle with you. I don't see any problem with keeping this guy in your heart if it makes you feel better. But at the same time you need to be open to the next awesome guy that comes around. My bet is, a year from now you'll be with some other guy and you won't even think about him anymore. Most likely that's the way this whole thing will end up. Tread lightly when it comes to thinking a person is "the one". IF he was, you'd be with him. Since you're not, that poses a bit of a problem.
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