Lucky555 Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 Ok with my current bf it's 7 months and almost 8 now! I feel as though It's dragging on. Now this is a significant time to be with someone. We have no pictures together. He has not considered my date ideas still. Just this past week he said there was a day he want me to go with him to do "his" errands. I just ask myself why? Why would I want to do something so boring!!! Its not fun..I have not been on a date in now 5 months with him. We only stay in. He asked me before how I want things to be different and I told him. Nothing is changing. He is not saying anything sweet to me. I'm very confused at this time. I care about him but at the same time he isn't showing me he loves me. He has not even mentioned the words. After 8 months still no meeting of family. He also won't bring me to his work place to do some activities I have wanted to do when he has spare time.which is weird. After hous he has no problem with me accompanying him to run and errand to his work. He's not serious at this time about me it's prety obvious. I don't feel like I should be saying what should take place. I feel alone most of the time too. He doesn't even call me. Otherwise is he just keeping me around for pleasure?! He is not investing any money, rarely time, and not even purusing me unless I disappear. I feel he is taking my for granted.I drive to see him, make dinner, and all he does is lay on the couch. Last time I was with him he wanted me to cook the rest of our food and acted like he was a king and I the servant. After I had prepared food the best he could do is help out! The next step is? I tried to explain already he lacks emotion to me and we don't have enough dates! I don't know how else to explain my needs and get them met. I feel he is selfish..and lately in the bedroom he is selfish and doesn't act lovingly when he is with me. Usually he tries to speed things up! I am at a loss here I don't know how to progress this or make it better. Im feeling like I am with a selfish person lately
Annalisa Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 I don't think you really need anyone to tell you this because you should know it already. Leave! You deserve so much better. Love yourself and the next guy you meet will treat you the way you should be treated.
Author Lucky555 Posted June 30, 2011 Author Posted June 30, 2011 I don't think you really need anyone to tell you this because you should know it already. Leave! You deserve so much better. Love yourself and the next guy you meet will treat you the way you should be treated. I wish there was an easier way. I wish he would listen. Tonight he totally was preoccupied with his tv. Gosh it made me so upset. I tried to talk to him. I feel as though he might be two-timing me. Like leading me to believe we are a couple when we are not even together enough. I feel likenit dealing with it and just disappearing. It's a pathetic relationship and one sided. I wish I had strength to help me tell him off and cut him out. I feel so disrespected. I do not feel like he thinks we are a couple. I'm going to stop contacting him. Tonight I really wanted to talk to him but he wouldn't even listen.
2sunny Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 all the things you listed... if it were me? it would have been over a long time ago! end it. you should tell him why though.
Author Lucky555 Posted July 1, 2011 Author Posted July 1, 2011 I know it sounds like I should have ended it. But whn I state my concerns he claims to "do anything for me", and he asks what I want differently. He makes it seem like he wants to work it out and always asks me to see him. Now when I tell him what. I want he says ok. Then nothing happens..like needing emotion, contact, real dates! Then I see him and he puts his charm on..clings to me "lovingly" and I don't have the heart to say seriously I need more. It's like he figured it out to buy himself some time and skate by getting what he wants. This is my struggle. I don't want to deal with it.however.. I we were supposed to have a "real date" coming up. I also want to know why he can't express anything to me, I am pretty much finding a clear mind and hoping to addresss the issues.. I think what bothers me too is he is fine seeing each other one day a week...then I feel he pushes me out the door the next day. I feel used. Why can't he spend a whole day and night with me? I'm seeing red flags Thanks for the opinions.
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