Jagger341 Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 Before she told me this, while I was having a conversation with her and a guy who was possibly well into his 50s or 60s, she was giving me a lot of eye contact and smiling at me a lot, even when I wasn't speaking (which assumes she was interested in me). Before I left the cafe, I asked her if there was a number I could reach her, she told me she'd love to, but she can't because she has trust issues, but she still wants to hang out whenever we see each other again. I can understand this because I had trust issues in the past after being stabbed in the back so many times in High School. She said she doesn't want me to think she's rejecting me or that she doesn't like me. So what should I do? I like her, but I don't want to make her feel uncomfortable if she actually does have trust issues.
Ruby Slippers Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 See her the next time you hang out, keep being friendly, and flirt if it is welcome. Eventually, maybe her interest in you will outweigh her fears and she will give it a go with you. If not, you can keep being friends or move on. Nothing to lose, right?
Realitycheck1 Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 She is not interested in you. If she was, she'd give you her number. It's really that simple.
grkBoy Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 Before she told me this, while I was having a conversation with her and a guy who was possibly well into his 50s or 60s, she was giving me a lot of eye contact and smiling at me a lot, even when I wasn't speaking (which assumes she was interested in me). Before I left the cafe, I asked her if there was a number I could reach her, she told me she'd love to, but she can't because she has trust issues, but she still wants to hang out whenever we see each other again. I can understand this because I had trust issues in the past after being stabbed in the back so many times in High School. She said she doesn't want me to think she's rejecting me or that she doesn't like me. So what should I do? I like her, but I don't want to make her feel uncomfortable if she actually does have trust issues. Don't say anything to her about it. Be sociable one or two more times. If she won't let you contact her outside of that move on. ALSO...keep your eye out for new women. Don't put all your eggs into her basket. I don't like dealing with women who have trust issues. I know people get hurt, but trust issues equates to baggage for me. In cases like this I'll be cautious but take a chance...but if she's more or less scared to death to get close to someone because of some ex, then I walk. I have no time or patience for these games, and I am not here to be someone's therapist.
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