quietGuy13 Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 I'm unsuccessful but i want a relationship someday. Do you think i should seek out only unsuccessful women? It's actually a fact that most women of a social bracket, do not hang out or date men from a lower one. For example Asians women. They all graduate with high degrees , engineering etc. Even the women. And those women just hang out with guys in the same social bracket. That's why you see them with White guys etc. I see tons of White guys with asian girls, or sucessful Black/latino guys with asian girls. Same thing with white girls. White girls usually date/marry guys working with jobs around their same social bracket. The thing is, how do i find unsuccessful women to date? Most women that are attractive are usualy succesful and wouldn't even look at me twice. Even women who are not as suceesfful are more successful than i am. They have jobs.
vsmini Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 I'm unsuccessful but i want a relationship someday. Do you think i should seek out only unsuccessful women? It's actually a fact that most women of a social bracket, do not hang out or date men from a lower one. For example Asians women. They all graduate with high degrees , engineering etc. Even the women. And those women just hang out with guys in the same social bracket. That's why you see them with White guys etc. I see tons of White guys with asian girls, or sucessful Black/latino guys with asian girls. Same thing with white girls. White girls usually date/marry guys working with jobs around their same social bracket. The thing is, how do i find unsuccessful women to date? Most women that are attractive are usualy succesful and wouldn't even look at me twice. Even women who are not as suceesfful are more successful than i am. They have jobs. You make it sound like your unsuccessful by choice. Is that the case? I admit that dating a guy with very little motivation to earn a living is unattractive. I don't need some CEO but I do need to know that a guy can support himself and wouldn't end up on the streets if it wasn't for his parents. You're probably going to have very little luck if you have no ambition to bring home a paycheck. But my aunt married some ex-con with no job and has no intention of ever getting a job. She supports him and he sits at home all day and buys stuff with her money. It works for some people.
Author quietGuy13 Posted June 28, 2011 Author Posted June 28, 2011 who said i wasn't looking for a job? I look but ther'es nothing. and the ones i get pay low
TheLawmaker Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 Do what I suggested, man. Get on disability. I tried for disability for social anxiety, but was rejected because I have held down jobs before, and quit all of mine. However, your former employers can tell the government that you are disabled, and then you'll get on disability. It's better than nothing. Some women would date someone on disability, as long as they had some sort of income. No woman would date someone who sat around and did nothing to change their situation.
allina Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 Do what I suggested, man. Get on disability. I don't think we should urge the OP to get government assistance when he is willing to be a contributing member of society. OP, please see a doctor and see what can be done about your speech issue. I believe that with hard work and dedication you can have a normal, happy life. For now, I think you should focus on yourself not women. Please take ownership of your situation and do everything you can to improve it. Yes usually unsuccessful men don't have much luck unless they are extremely attractive and charismatic.
musemaj11 Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 Yea that's right, reject jobs with low pay and get on disability handout instead. I'm so happy working hard to support all the leeches in this country.
Author quietGuy13 Posted June 29, 2011 Author Posted June 29, 2011 I don't think we should urge the OP to get government assistance when he is willing to be a contributing member of society. OP, please see a doctor and see what can be done about your speech issue. I believe that with hard work and dedication you can have a normal, happy life. For now, I think you should focus on yourself not women. Please take ownership of your situation and do everything you can to improve it. Yes usually unsuccessful men don't have much luck unless they are extremely attractive and charismatic. Thank you. Yes i made an appointment for Speech therapy today. And then i have one for regular therapy too. I'm going to an interview tomororow( TEMP agency) at temp agency because i can't find any jobs otherweise. Butdumb temp agencies don't have anything ever. TheLawmaker. i feel you!! You kinda seem like me. We should fight to the end!! This damn society hates us but we have to do something. F*** it!!
Author quietGuy13 Posted June 29, 2011 Author Posted June 29, 2011 Yea that's right, reject jobs with low pay and get on disability handout instead. I'm so happy working hard to support all the leeches in this country. Well i didn't say give us money to us leeches, i said Gives us help and some training.
TheLawmaker Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 How is someone on disability a leech? Oh yes. Let's discriminate against the mentally retarded, the disabled, the people who actually CAN'T hold down jobs. Let's call them lazy, that makes US feel much better about ourselves! Kick someone down so that we can be higher up, yes, that works out well! /end sarcasm Guys, I wasn't stating that he should do it if he can work! I was just stating that he should do it, if he can't and he needs money to live! How is that leeching off the government? By all standards, the OP should work at getting over his issues. I should be, and am, working on getting over my social anxiety. I have already started applying and asking around for jobs. Nobody's hiring. If someone won't hire someone who is perfectly capable of doing the job, why would they hire someone like the OP? If he can get on disability, until he's able to get hired somewhere (gains a skill), why shouldn't he? Can't you see that your advice is detrimental to the OP's situation?
callingyouuu Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 It sounds kind of like you're just trying to "settle" during a rough economic period in your life. I would suggest focusing on getting a job and stabilizing the rest of your life before trying to find a girlfriend, but it's your call. I know it's hard, but you've got to work on yourself before you can add someone else in your life. Guys, I wasn't stating that he should do it if he can work! I was just stating that he should do it, if he can't and he needs money to live! It didn't sound that way from how you worded it. If he can be formally diagnosed as disabled by a professional, I have no problem with this.
musemaj11 Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 Well i didn't say give us money to us leeches, i said Gives us help and some training.your problem is not that you can't get a job. Your problem is that you can't get a job THAT YOU WANT.
Author quietGuy13 Posted June 29, 2011 Author Posted June 29, 2011 WEll i don't get any job because 1)8 dollar jobs can't even pay for an apartment( i have a bunch of loans to pay too) 2)my parents don't let me get any job. they want me to get something better
Dust Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 WEll i don't get any job because 1)8 dollar jobs can't even pay for an apartment( i have a bunch of loans to pay too) 2)my parents don't let me get any job. they want me to get something better How old are you? What are you dreams/goals in life? (all of them)
oaks Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 2)my parents don't let me get any job. they want me to get something better Tell them to back off and let you live your own life.
I have no title Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 You should seek how to arrange your own life and stop admitting that you're a loser.. Learn and develop yourself as a person, and don't lower your levels for women just because you are unsuccessful..A strong and wise woman can make any men successfull..if you'll read some interviews of very worldwide famous actors, sportsmen and so on, you will see what they're saying : "If not the woman that has been next to me for my entire life, beleiving in me and supporting me, I wouldnt be the person I am now"... But to attract a woman like that, you have to have a golden soul, if not a golden wallet...
bac Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 I'm unsuccessful but i want a relationship someday. You can find your right match online. There are plenty of women looking for you. You might want to look for women who are 20 yrs older than you, have psychiatric problems (the best choice is the bipolar), drug addictions, several kids, perhaps fat and ugly. It should not be a problem to find a girl like that because the girls are absolutely available and waiting for their right match.
carhill Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 OP, if women can date and marry incarcerated felons, they can date and marry you. That's a gross example but I've seen a lot of life. Follow your path and ignore those who are not on it. If the Asian and white women with college degrees are not on it, they're not on it. Accept that. If you're never going to be a rocket scientist, accept that. Be the best the you can be, on your path. Focus on the most elementary of relationships, being a caring person and good friend. Grow that. Let us know how that speech therapy appointment works out. Good luck
grkBoy Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 I think you should put dating on hold and only concentrate on getting and keeping a full-time job. You don't have to be a college educated high earner in life, but you have to have stability.
alexlakeman Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 OP, if women can date and marry incarcerated felons, they can date and marry you. That's a gross example but I've seen a lot of life. Follow your path and ignore those who are not on it. If the Asian and white women with college degrees are not on it, they're not on it. Accept that. If you're never going to be a rocket scientist, accept that. Be the best the you can be, on your path. Focus on the most elementary of relationships, being a caring person and good friend. Grow that. Let us know how that speech therapy appointment works out. Good luck What he said...
Ruby Slippers Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 Follow your path and ignore those who are not on it. If the Asian and white women with college degrees are not on it, they're not on it. Accept that. If you're never going to be a rocket scientist, accept that. Be the best the you can be, on your path. Focus on the most elementary of relationships, being a caring person and good friend. Grow that. Very good advice.
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