brokendreamz Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 I've just come out of an 8 year relationship. I thought it was the end of the line for me when it all kicked off, no point in living etc etc. I believed everything she told me and it has taken me six months to realise I was being played. She was the sweetest, most amazing girl ever and we were engaged and supposed to be getting married this year. She told me she didn't love me anymore, that there was no one else and she just wanted us to move on and be happy. I had a suspicion that someone at her work was hitting on her for about 3 years !! She told me in was being paranoid and I believed her. I trusted her, we loved each other. We were going to get married so no problem right? WRONG!!! I found out she's now dating this ****. Looks like she was ****ing playing me all along. The guy she's with had a girlfriend and she a fiancè. I guess what I'm trying to get across to anyone who has just been devastated by a break up is that YOU ARE NOT THINKING STRAIGHT. DO NOT BELIEBE ANYTHING YOU ARE BEING TOLD! You NEED to go no contact ASAP, put some distance between you and the ex and let time do it's thing - I guarantee you will see things in a different light after a few weeks/months. We're all on a roller coaster ride of terrible emotions, some at different stages than others, but I promise... IT WILL GET BETTER. Work on yourself, be selfish, treat yourself, work out, join a club, go out with mates DO NOT MOPE FOR TOO LONG. It's over for a reason but IT IS OVER and the sooner you allow yourself to accept that, the sooner you will start getting back to your old self. Good luck everyone and remember. If they don't want you, if they aren't BEGGING you to take them back, leave them alone. Why would you want to be with someone who thinks you are disposable? Peace.
ScienceGal Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 Thanks for the post. I will add one other thought, no one has the power to fix anyone. Do not ever think that you can try harder if the other person is not. Do not EVER settle for someone that treats you less than you would treat them! No matter what, we all have to put in the time (sigh). It WILL get better!
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