2sunny Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 It boils down to this. She was living in a house that was financed through my family business. My dad was all for her moving in but when my mom found out all hell broke loose. She ended up moving in anyways and things were fine. We had built a pretty cozy existence. I gave up all the family dinners, and we are talking every Sunday night, to be with her. I ended up ostracizing my whole family. The straw that broke the camels back was the vacation we were taking without her. I just don't think it reasonable to assume that my family would need to take her and the children on family trips. So I was in a dilemma, do I let my children go with my parents on vacation once a year or use it as a bargaining chip by not letting them take my children unless they acknowledged my fiance. I told my fiance that even though it hurt for one week, we would create our own family memories on our own trip. She wouldn't have that, it was all or nothing with her. Am i being unreasonable in that one demand? so the straw is now broken? does that mean she is out of your life? a woman making demands that isolates you from family isn't an ideal match. you haven't married her yet - so throw her out. all or nothing? nothing seems better than this chaos and havoc she's creating with her purposeful demands. i can see a wife wanting to be a priority - but not at the expense of eliminating family. tell her good - go! and hurry up! don't let the door hit her backside on her way out.
2sunny Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 not estranged, no. The vacation was going to be my parents, me and my kids. you should all still go! show her she's made her choice when she cheated. go!
Author Wildabeest Posted July 7, 2011 Author Posted July 7, 2011 She is awaiting word on the apartment she applied for. We already decided that we are breaking up after she moves out. We also have couples therapy scheduled for tomorrow morning. I'm eager to see what the therapist is going to say.
2sunny Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 She is awaiting word on the apartment she applied for. We already decided that we are breaking up after she moves out. We also have couples therapy scheduled for tomorrow morning. I'm eager to see what the therapist is going to say. WTF? why couples therapy if you are breaking up? you are NOT making any sense!!!!! who cares what she applied for - kick her out - she cheated! not your problem any more - any demands she's making should be directed back to herself. she gave up the right to be there and make ANY demands when she cheated. get her out. what are you waiting for? being mr nice guy has gotten you a cheating gal - start being neutral and level headed - she needs to leave. she will figure it all out - she's a big girl. let her loose.
yawn_interrupted Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 She is awaiting word on the apartment she applied for. We already decided that we are breaking up after she moves out. We also have couples therapy scheduled for tomorrow morning. I'm eager to see what the therapist is going to say. Couples therapy????? Okay that is the last straw on my back indeed. What the F.... are you doing man!!!!!!! Just let go of all this mess. You and that girl seriously need to stop talking. Way too much talking going on in that household. Also there should be no one month rent, security deposit or any freaking couch between you two.... OP. you are obviously so sweet and nice. I feel your pain, believe me. But YOU ARE DRIVING ME CRAZY MAN.
Author Wildabeest Posted July 11, 2011 Author Posted July 11, 2011 You guys are right. The therapist told us that we were essentially divorced for the next two weeks, after the two weeks we will see if we want to call it quits for good or reconcile. I am all over the place I know. I'm a wreck. Thanks for the responses. I just have to let her go. She already let me go...
Author Wildabeest Posted July 11, 2011 Author Posted July 11, 2011 What's the protocol for kicking her out. I'm getting mixed responses. She says u can't evict for 30 days.
Washburn Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 What's the protocol for kicking her out. I'm getting mixed responses. She says u can't evict for 30 days. I wood assume that you could just kick her out..I mean ur name is on the lease and u pay for everything towards that household correct? Of course I dont really know as Ive never been in teh situation you have been in
Owl Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 Are both names on the lease? If so...then go talk with your landlord about what it would take to remove her from the lease. If not...there's nothing to it. Tell her to pack out and leave. Don't know how much joint property the two of you have (if any)...but if there's a lot, talking to an attorney to figure out how to protect yourself legally and financially might be in order.
2.50 a gallon Posted July 14, 2011 Posted July 14, 2011 I suggest that you check with the authorities as to your rights and her rights. My girl friend was the only name on the lease, but she let her daughter live with her. My GF came home from work one day to find that her daughter had let her father, My GF's abusive Ex-H move in. Needless to say a large argument broke out and the police were called. The end result, being as the daughter had lived there for over 30 days whe was now also a legal resident, and in order to get her out of the apartment, My GF had to give her a 30 day eviction notice. Also, being as her daughter was a legal resident she was allowed to have guests, and the Ex-H could not be forced to leave the residence for 10 days. Worse still, the police gave my GF the choice of leaving the residence for the night of going to jail.
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