ScienceGal Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 What does it mean when your ex texts a reply that he will talk to you when he is ready? We were only together for 6 months, and it's been two weeks since we split. And, he is the one that broke up with me. It was clear he was ignoring me after the split, so I went 9 days with NC. I then sent a text asking about getting the rest of my stuff (no reply). I waited 3 more days and texted today saying that I hope he will talk to me again sometime and that just because we aren't for each other, doesn't mean that we have to be enemies. Thats when I got "When I am ready, I will". I am asking because I really care for him and I did not want the relationship to end (I made this known 2 weeks ago when we split). I don't know if there is anything else I can do to try to mend the relationship... or should I just wait until he is ready to talk (I assume that means he is trying to get over me, but isn't there yet?) This sucks! p.s. the relationship was amazing. We had 2 fights towards the end and the problem was that I want to talk things out right away and he doesn't. I think this is important in situations where someone has hurt the other... no one should have to stuff their feelings. Or, a REAL apology needs to be given and a discussion later. Seems like a weird thing to breakup over, but it was a dealbreaker for him. Lastly, a part of me feels that if we are suppose to be together, that when we finally see each other again, we will both feel it inside... regardless of how long has gone by (or maybe I am just hoping this:) Thanks!
0hpenelope Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 (edited) Hm... Believe him 100% when he says that he'll talk when he's ready. But don't be a doormat about it either. Meaning don't wait around for that one day that he'll talk to you. I mean, he just stopped talking to you, even when you need to get your stuff. That's really rude, actually; he can be civil, but he's choosing to not be. And I hope that the things that he has of yours are easily replaceable. People put stock in their exes giving them closure or an explanation or a reason. Strange thing about it is, for all of the stuff that they say after the break up, sometimes they really don't know themselves. But you have to take his word for it and just let it go. Closure comes from yourself and not from anyone else. He's avoiding talking to you and is dictating the terms of how you get to interact with him according to his way. How about just taking the reigns for yourself, realize that nothing you say will change his mind about being civil or nothing you do will influence him to re-consider a conversation with him, and just go on? If he calls you, then he'll call you. I don't like the way he conducted himself to you after the break up. Edited June 29, 2011 by 0hpenelope
EgoJoe Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 I got a similar thing during my breakup....except I told her...when she's ready blah blah blah. Don't push, my situation was VERY confusing especially because of all the cryptic crap. He will contact you when he is ready. Don't wait around for it. Sooner you forget the sooner it will happen. Take it from someone who took bad advice and ignored good advice. DO NOT IGNORE THIS ADVICE.
just_scott Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 you know i agree with you on what you said and i am the same way IF theirs an issue i'd liketo discuss it right away so you can put it to est and move on . little over a month ago when my ex just walked out on our 4 yr relationship I wanted to talk see where something went wrong SHE didn't I think it's the adult thing to do sit and discuss whatever right away IF not immediatly then a day or so later NOT just run away from it BUT you can't force or push talking to someone who doesn't want to talk ,in fact it could push them further away from talking to you i think .
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