vsmini Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 And you sound bitter. Everyone has there own opinion. I'm not getting upset and i'm not defending anyone. In fact i disagree with him. My exact words were: it is a fact that people think online dating is for desperate people. If two people think that does it not make it a fact? I think that is how a majority of the world feels. I wouldn't get married until you understand this: It doesn't really matter what his "buddies" think. You'll find that out with time...hopefully. So you say people look at internet daters as desperate. Well you aren't desperate? are you? NO - so then obviously people have a misconception about people that meet on the internet. It's hardly worth it to go along with a lie just because you're afraid of other people's misconceptions defining you. If people want to judge the two of you for it... LET THEM. Don't belittle your relationship and start lying to please people who have these stupid misconceptions.
grkBoy Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 My fiance wants to lie about the way that we met. I really don't feel comfortable with it. We met online when we were in our teens in a chat room. I think the main reason he wants to lie is because he is a really cocky popular type of guy. And i think most people believe that online dating is for ugly people. He has said more then once that if his brothers and friends found out they would never let him live it down. And his parents would automatically shun our relationship. But if we are going to get married i don't think we should lie to all of our loved ones. And my parents dissaprove of me marrying a man i have been with for less than a year. But if they knew how long we had really been friends before that they might understand. We are both good looking people so i don't see the problem. Do you think i should lie with him? So don't give details. Someone asks how you two met, say you were in a social setting and just started chatting. If one wants place, time, etc...just move on. I don't see "online" as "just for losers", but more see it as another means. My friends run a wedding photography business, and before I met my girlfriend (offline), they would tell me to get on a good dating site because of how many of their clients met through these sites. I never had much luck with dating sites, but I did meet some great women I would have seriously dated through some message boards and chat rooms. If you two have an issue with "online" then just be vague in details. However, I don't see an issue with meeting online anymore. Anyone who wants to play the stigma is only fooling themselves. Come on...we have loads of people dating coworkers now because they can't seem to meet people the normal way. Why should online be seen as a step down? All I ever tell people is not to waste their time with free sites that are chock-full of the "problems".
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