Author LadyFlame Posted June 28, 2011 Author Posted June 28, 2011 Well, you guys probably don't like the same music, so............ ???? Sorry if I'm being slow but ..?
Author LadyFlame Posted June 28, 2011 Author Posted June 28, 2011 OH MY GOD he just rang me and I missed it coz phone was on silent!! He's probably calling to cancel!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
reboot Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 Yeah, but isn't dinner more on the romantic side rather than the "playful" side? He wants to take me to a fancy restaurant in central london? Fancy restaurants are how we impress a lady. Generation gap again, he doesn't realize the arcade would be a better choice.
oaks Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 OH MY GOD he just rang me and I missed it coz phone was on silent!! He's probably calling to cancel!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Or to confirm details for dinner? Call him back and see!
Author LadyFlame Posted June 28, 2011 Author Posted June 28, 2011 Fancy restaurants are how we impress a lady. Generation gap again, he doesn't realize the arcade would be a better choice. Well he just told me that he's booked the place for us to go tomorrow! What you think that means??????????? Are you the same age as he?
oaks Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 He wants to take me to a fancy restaurant in central london? Sounds good! After you've been, let me know which one and whether the food is any good and maybe I'll take someone there myself.
Dust Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 Well he just told me that he's booked the place for us to go tomorrow! What you think that means??????????? Are you the same age as he? I’m in my twenties but seriously don’t feel most middle aged people are some how more mature then me. The only reason I don’t date middle aged women is I don’t find them attractive. Not to mention they are more likely to have kids, ex husbands, etc. etc. You really should expect the same level of communication and respect you would from some one our age. Don’t give him any excuses because he is older.
Author LadyFlame Posted June 28, 2011 Author Posted June 28, 2011 Sounds good! After you've been, let me know which one and whether the food is any good and maybe I'll take someone there myself. Change of plan, he booked a place in west london. So what do you think this all means? Does booking make a difference to just taking? What's the exact intentions, do you think?
reboot Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 Well he just told me that he's booked the place for us to go tomorrow! What you think that means??????????? Are you the same age as he? It probably means he's booked the place for you to go tomorrow. I'm a little bit older than him. Close enough.
Author LadyFlame Posted June 28, 2011 Author Posted June 28, 2011 I’m in my twenties but seriously don’t feel most middle aged people are some how more mature then me. The only reason I don’t date middle aged women is I don’t find them attractive. Not to mention they are more likely to have kids, ex husbands, etc. etc. You really should expect the same level of communication and respect you would from some one our age. Don’t give him any excuses because he is older. Well apparently he has 3 kids and the eldest is 17. I'm completely new to dealing with someone much older, hence I have no idea what to do. I don't know if someone that age would expect a fling type thing or something more serious? And wouldn't it be a problem for him if I'm 24?
Dust Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 Change of plan, he booked a place in west london. So what do you think this all means? Does booking make a difference to just taking? What's the exact intentions, do you think? I think you're overthinking this. Personaly I never book I just take people to casual places with good food no reservation required. Also maybe the fact that you're in the UK explains something?
reboot Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 Change of plan, he booked a place in west london. So what do you think this all means? Does booking make a difference to just taking? What's the exact intentions, do you think? A fancy restaurant usually requires a reservation. How old did you say you were?
oaks Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 Well he just told me that he's booked the place for us to go tomorrow! What you think that means??????????? Why does everything have to have a double meaning?
Author LadyFlame Posted June 28, 2011 Author Posted June 28, 2011 I'm 24; I suppose I like to look at every possible outcome so there are no nasty surprises
Dust Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 Well apparently he has 3 kids and the eldest is 17. I'm completely new to dealing with someone much older, hence I have no idea what to do. I don't know if someone that age would expect a fling type thing or something more serious? And wouldn't it be a problem for him if I'm 24? Dating is mostly about one thing, attraction! You being 24 adds more attraction points then it subtracts. Him being 44 mostly only subtracts attraction points, but if he is good looking and has his act together he can easily be more attractive then a lot of the guys you meet closer to your range. Obviously an in shape good looking 27 year old go getter with no children or ex wives would probably be more attractive. Even though he is 44 all the same rules apply. He knows how sensitive women are to feeling used and he knows he’s should probably be the one doing more chasing in the beginning. Yet just cause he is 44 doesn’t mean he can’t be a rude guy who makes you feel used and is in fact just using you. It could also be genuine. Use the same logic you would with any guy. In fact be less forgiving of him then you would of some one your own age the same way you might be more forgiving of a guy who was younger then you. (women hate dating younger men and for the most part past a certain age men don’t really enjoy dating older women)
oaks Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 Change of plan, he booked a place in west london. So what do you think this all means? Does booking make a difference to just taking? What's the exact intentions, do you think? Booking just guarantees that there's a table available at a specific time. Maybe not necessary on a Wednesday night unless it's a really popular place, but he doesn't want to take you out and then fail to deliver on his promise of dinner! I can't read his mind about his intentions. I've been to dinner with friends, and I've been to dinner on dates, and I don't know which this is. Best to assume it's a date! Lots of nice restaurants in west London. Did he say what sort of cuisine they serve?
Author LadyFlame Posted June 28, 2011 Author Posted June 28, 2011 Booking just guarantees that there's a table available at a specific time. Maybe not necessary on a Wednesday night unless it's a really popular place, but he doesn't want to take you out and then fail to deliver on his promise of dinner! I can't read his mind about his intentions. I've been to dinner with friends, and I've been to dinner on dates, and I don't know which this is. Best to assume it's a date! Lots of nice restaurants in west London. Did he say what sort of cuisine they serve? Yes, it's sort of like a mix of everything, and do I take it to assume you live in west london too? @Dust, thanks for the advice, I just hate not knowing exactly what's going on, though at the same time I don't even want to question it in case I come across as desperate in any way! Also, are guys that age flirty over text message? Cos we did flirt a bit just now but he didn't reply to mine!
oaks Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 Yes, it's sort of like a mix of everything, and do I take it to assume you live in west london too? Not quite but I'm within commuting range (or within dating range).
Author LadyFlame Posted June 28, 2011 Author Posted June 28, 2011 Not quite but I'm within commuting range (or within dating range). Well I have to admit I'm a bit nervous, I'm not the dating, courting type of person, it's usually "get in, get out" or "get in, find you have loads in common and then stay in" type of thing. Arranging dinner is all very new to me.
snug.bunny Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 You haven't even been on a first date, you told him you weren't interested in a relationship, and yet you expect to hear from him every day? Right? OP, you straight out told him you are not interested in a relationship, so maybe his response to you (or lack thereof) is indicative of that at this point in time.
Author LadyFlame Posted June 28, 2011 Author Posted June 28, 2011 Right? OP, you straight out told him you are not interested in a relationship, so maybe his response to you (or lack thereof) is indicative of that at this point in time. That's why I was confused by the swanky restaurant dinner thing. Wasn't sure if that was a sign of "This could be a potential relationship"
oaks Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 Well I have to admit I'm a bit nervous, I'm not the dating, courting type of person, it's usually "get in, get out" or "get in, find you have loads in common and then stay in" type of thing. Arranging dinner is all very new to me. So when he doesn't try to stick his tongue down your throat during the evening you'll probably conclude that he isn't interested when maybe he's just taking it slow because you already told him you weren't interested in a relationship. Don't worry about it. There will be food. What's not to like?
Author LadyFlame Posted June 28, 2011 Author Posted June 28, 2011 So when he doesn't try to stick his tongue down your throat during the evening you'll probably conclude that he isn't interested when maybe he's just taking it slow because you already told him you weren't interested in a relationship. Don't worry about it. There will be food. What's not to like? Yes but that's another thing, he has previously stuck his tongue down my throat and more, hence why I figured we've done it the backwards way; not the most usual situation, and I figured the dinner thing was implying relationship terms? Yes very true; food and wine
snug.bunny Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 That's why I was confused by the swanky restaurant dinner thing. Wasn't sure if that was a sign of "This could be a potential relationship" I would just consider it a date, nothing less, nothing more.
oaks Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 Yes but that's another thing, he has previously stuck his tongue down my throat and more, hence why I figured we've done it the backwards way; not the most usual situation, and I figured the dinner thing was implying relationship terms? Oh I see. Well, it's a date. He wants to do those 'more' things again but wants to show you that he has a cultured, civilised side that knows how to take a girl out for dinner. If you run out of small-talk you can ask him why he invited you and what sort of relationship he's looking for.
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