I Just emailed local Girls in facebook, any chance this will lead to friendship?

[quietGuy13]

I've done it before, most dont answer but a few may.

 

Thing is it doesn't last or they ignore you after the first message . Which is just stupid. i thought facebook was supposedly to make friends , but how can you make friends if nobody answers.

 

Anyways, i emailed a short mesage to 20 girls, saying how i'm interestted in being friends.

 

Is it all in the numbers? Like sending out resumes. the more you send the more chance someone will answer.

 

So is 20 too little? should i send to 100 or more?

 

I know you guy's have said that i'm worthless to date, but at least just friendship is ok.

[OhMittens]

I'm sure you're not worthless to date. But I don't think random facebook messages are the way to go.

 

I'd say meet people in real life. Find a hobby or a cause to donate time to and see whats around. You might want to try meetup.com groups as well.

[Lucky_One]

QuietGuy, I am sorry to say that I wouldn't answer a stranger in FB. I don't consider FB a way to make new friends, I consider it way to stay in touch with people I already know.

 

(Am trying to say all of this gently, but I know no way to be both gentle and direct) I think it would behoove you to invest some time into finding a counselor. Have you ever used a speech therapist? Your attitude towards yourself and your abilities is self-defeating, but you have an admirable spirit and will towards continuing to try.

 

You tend to blame all that is wrong in your life with your speech impediment. What have you done to try to correct this?

[TheCoolest]

Lmao. Not sure if srs....

 

If srs then you aren't gonna make friends on facebook. You make friends in the real world then add them on facebook. Trust me meeting people in person is a lot better then meeting people online.

[Cracker Jack]

I don't think this'll lead to any sort of friendship.

[soapx]

+1 to the others. Meeting in person or activity is way better than online IMO.

 

I had success with meetup.com once. She was a psycho but fun for awhile..

[quietGuy13]

"I think it would behoove you to invest some time into finding a counselor. Have you ever used a speech therapist? Your attitude towards yourself and your abilities is self-defeating, but you have an admirable spirit and will towards continuing to try.

 

I signed up for a counselor.(not speech therapist.) But i should get a Speech one too but i dont have money.

 

"I'm sure you're not worthless to date. But I don't think random facebook messages are the way to go.

 

I'd say meet people in real life. Find a hobby or a cause to donate time to and see whats around. You might want to try meetup.com groups as well."

 

Well yeah i know i'll probably not have anyone asnwer in facebook. But i just wanted to try. Meet people in real life? Well i have and they never really like me. They just lie. You say it's because i'm a stranger and they don't like being approached by strangers. WEll i would be a stranger anywhere!!!!

 

Many books and people say "meet at a supermarket etc" I will be a stranger there too!! Take a class?? I would be a stranger there too!!!

And i'm the same anywhere i go. Like at work i didn't talk. At school i didn't talk. Going to a class would not lead to nothing. Unless i was a talkative guy.

 

I really don't know what hobby i should take up to meet women. Especialky now since i'm unemployed. Most women , as evidenced by my post about being 30 and not having a career, think guys like me are crap worthless, so even if i went and met women, they would think i'm not dating material cause they think I'm a loser.

 

 

Well

one time I met a girl through facebook and we finally met. And it was aweful... she was not interessted in me at all. Didn't try to ask me anything. So yeah i can see how facebook doesn't work.

[alexlakeman]

Good luck...

 

You can't go to step 2, without completing step 1. Take care of yourself first, period; there has to be gov backed services that you don't need $ to get help. They do in the US. What country are you in? Parents??

 

If you keep trying to meet women at this point; you are just beating yourself up for now reason. NO matter how hot someone is, how "normal" (no one is 100% normal, lol) they are etc; if they don't have a job, they aren't going to get women.. Heck, with everything I bring to the table in a relationship; if I tell them I don't have a job, they WILL run...

 

Good thing is you are not loosing hope and actually thinking about women

 

I'm sure you're not worthless to date. But I don't think random facebook messages are the way to go.

 

I'd say meet people in real life. Find a hobby or a cause to donate time to and see whats around. You might want to try meetup.com groups as well.

 

What he/she said...

[OhMittens]

What he/she said...

I'm still debating the operation, but lets call me a he

 

The best thing you can do is go join a group activity that you enjoy with no intention of meeting women. Just enjoy it for the sake of the activity and you are sure to make friends and possibly more.