Ally-65 Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 Hi Guys, I'm new here and will try to make this as brief as possible. I am going through a pretty rough time right now, so any wise words would really help. Broke up with bf after two years about 3 weeks ago. It has been very on/off for the last year. But we somehow believed that we would get through all the issues that came up. Anyway, another "little" arguement came up and it was the usual not speaking for a couple of days. As usual, I am the one to break the silence by asking if we could talk. I met up with him at his place, which incidently is two doors away from me. He told me that he no longer had hope for us, and it was over. He couldn't go through the emotions anymore of the on/off thing. He didn't want to feel sad and he didn't want me to feel sad. He said he wasn't doing it to hurt me, but to prevent himself getting hurt. I did the crying, begging bit... that maybe some of you have done! He was quite cold though. The next day I sent him an email asking if maybe we could sometimes do things together, just me and him. He wrote back and said that we could. His words "If I can have the lovely moments with you, that I know we can, then we should try" Since then I have kept up NC. I have heard nothing from him either. Just the day we broke up he was telling me how much he loved me. Now it seems, he just doesn't care. I just dont get it. I have been going through hell. I'm trying to think of all the negative things about the relationship, but can only think of the good things. It really is so damn hard.....
Geya Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 You should thank your lucky starts he didn't contact you then, you obviously still have feelings for him hanging out with him will do you no good it will only make you feel worse, if you want to hang out with him then you should get over him first, and this time in NC instead of it being hell you should take it as a break to heal yourself and do things that are good for you, cry whenever you feel like it, write in a journal, go out, or stay in watch movies, throw yourself a pity party and then when you let it all out start working on accepting things and start working on moving forward and not looking back. Use this forum to vent or if you ever felt too down, we're here for you. I know it's damn hard I went through it I went through so so much pain to get over my ex but I don't regret it one bit! I have my life back and freedom back without any pain, I live everyday for myself and I'm enjoying every single day and I'm just happy, you'll get there too.. and once you're happy with yourself you'll meet someone who is good for you and will never leave you.
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