nini Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 So his mum called me last night and the 1 hour conversation was basically her telling me: - I was very shocked when (boyfriends name) bought the house in Cambridge and you moved to there because no respectable muslim girl would ever do that...what type of ppl are yr parents, how have they raised you (I told her my parents dont know)...she kept saying how dissapointed/shocked her and the dad were when they heard about the whole live-in relationship. But they acted supportive for their son's happiness. -All the fights happen because YOU dig graves and you fight. My son is a very very caring boy and you have pushed him to the edge. - My son has a lot of stress as he has to use his brain in his job (scientist/researcher) whereas as an accountant you dont need to use yr brain. - Its not fair that my son had decided to pay the mortgage by himself,her words were "So you wanted to be a guest in the house?" (FYI, when we were making financial plans, we decided that he would pay the mortgage/bills and each month, I'd save an equal sum in a joint savings account). Ooops manager here...will update more in a bit! But seriously...WTF???
PegNosePete Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 That conversation would certainly not have lasted an hour with me. I would have told her to screw off and hung up after 1 minute. Tell your BF to sort his mother out and stop abusing you verbally.
Author nini Posted June 28, 2011 Author Posted June 28, 2011 Oh god!! she kept going on and on...about how her family is perfect and her children are perfect and how well she has brought them up and how I should learn to be more like them so I can have a happy life...wow... a part of me thinks its for the good...do i really want a mother-in-law who is so insensitive to anyone's feelings except her childrens? I'm in a weird mode now....still really angry/upset/feeling betrayed but a part of me thinks..maybe this didnt work out for a reason, and God has better plans for me...I just hopes he executes them sooner rather than later coz still feeling really lonely.... Thanks to all of you who have kept me going
Author nini Posted July 2, 2011 Author Posted July 2, 2011 I really feel like lashing out and want closure just to speak my mind, and writting an email/facebook message to his mum saying: - If you were such a brilliant wife, you would get along with your husband and would not hate each other - If you were such a brilliant mum, your daughter would not have an eating disorder - If you were such a brilliant mum, your son would not have failed his 1st year at medical school and then gone to prison for 3 months for being caught with ecstacy pills - If you were such a brilliant person, you would have some friends and family - If you were such a brilliant mum, you would have encouraged your son to see and correct his faults, rather than placing all the blame on his girlfriend. I'm not perfect, but neither are you! Actually, no one is. We all make mistakes, we all learn. Goodbye! Or do you guys think this would be asking for trouble?
stray Posted July 2, 2011 Posted July 2, 2011 This is asking for trouble. Don't write any letter, you'll regret it. Don't say anything to them at all. Revenge is not vindication. Vindication works on its own time, by its own clock. You can't force it. When my ex ex dumped me, I almost called the hospital where he was a resident at to tell them he was a pothead. I knew even if I anonymously called and made a report, it would do serious damage. But I stopped myself. Let your ex's mom ruin her own life and get the message first hand. You don't need to tell them anything.
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