NC still in force, but what do I make of these feelings...?

[Preggers2011]

So I have been doing much better with the NC. I am pregnant, so it is extremely hard to realize he is basically just not interested nor willing to even pe proactive about the baby. No biggie, I rather find out now that later on after baby is born and too much drama.

 

OK, so lately I have been feeling calm, and just indifferent. I don't see myself with him as much, not missing him as much, and just starting to see him more like a stranger. Is this normal? And I finally getting over all of it? Or is this just part of the roller coaster of emotions to be felt over time? Will I be back to feeling intense sad, angry, dissapointed? Or did I really make progress by allowing myself some time to take care of me and re-evaluate the entire situation and see it as a big picture?

 

Your thoughts are greatly apprecaited!

[nana841121]

There is no standardized process for post-breakup feelings.

Don't put much thoughts on question about being normal or not.

Just be honest with your feelings.

Let all the anger and regret and suppressed feeling out.

and walk through the pain.

if you don't feel much pain, you might check out from the relationship long time ago before the official breakup subconsciously.

You are not alone.

[Jdw_Icequeen]

I can very much sympathize with your situation. My ex was around for about 5 months after the baby was born and then up and left me to pursue someone else.. I have definetly seen my share of drama. Even after pretending to try and be a father for 5 months he dosen't give a rats ass about his son. Its definetly better to cut ties now from someone that dosen't want to be apart of your babies life. Mine was worthless as a father and a boyfriend.

 

I don't know how long you guys have been split. But yea those feelings after a certain amount of time are completley normal. No, no one can tell you after how long it takes some people a year or longer to get to the point of not caring. You may swing back into the anger or feeling hurt every so often, it can happen. But maybe not somtimes when someone hurts you so much and treats you so badly it pushes you over that hump of caring at all.. Especially when there is a child or children involved.

 

Keep your head up.. I know how emotionally tiring it can being pregnant, let alone having to go through a break up on top of it. Take care of yourself girly!

[Preggers2011]

Thank you so much for the kind words of encouragement. Well, I spoke too soon. Earlier, had a moment of anger, but thankfully just lasted a few minutes and I reminded myself I am too good to go down that path. Just let it out. Then later I am missing him again. Sigh. Still, I will say that it is not as bad as the beginning. Slowly, one day at a time, I am doing better. With us it was 7 months together and things were great when we were together, but not great when we were apart...always questioning each other. And we didn't end up on an ugly note. I just realized that he is simply not able to return the love and care that I was looking for, the same that I was giving. Deep down in my heart I had feelings that his heart was not in it and the only reason he was around was because of the baby. Now I have my answers.