ucrvme Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 I was in the most commited and loving relationship with such and amazing girl, But about a year ago we stopped having intercourse and from then on, I got very insecure and jealous (because i thought she was cheating) But i now realise more then anything, Pardon the pun (I thought with my penis instead of my heart) From my insecuritys and a diagnosed depression and anxiety disorder the last year was full of fights and unpleasant battles which more then anything destroyed my relahtionship. On the 24th of April after a requested 2 week break from my girlfriend, I called her and insisted she tell me what was going on, She ended up saying "I can't be in a relationship at the moment" This more then anything dropped me to one knee. To keep this short and to the point, My ex has told me She loves me She misses me She wants to be with me in time She can't see herself with anyone but me She wants to be with me in time But at the same time she has told me that she doesn't want me to wait for her, If i find someone to go for it because she doesn't know when she will be ready. Which everytime i hear breaks my heart in two pieces because more then anything i'm trying to change the way i am to be the guy she first met. I speak to her mum more then once a week because her mum "thinks i am an amazing guy who deserves a second chance" her mum has also said to me. She hasn't taken your photos down (In her bedroom) Wears the ring i bought her Sleeps with the teddy i bought And when i've seen her at work - kisses me on the lips and hugs me I have somewhat accepted that she wants space and time, to sort out her job,health and finacial sistuation. but what should i do? I've stopped texting and calling her which is so hard, But occasionally I have slipped up, I love this girl with all my heart and i don't want anyone but her. please help me I OVER THINK EVERYTHING
OhMittens Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 She possibly has GIGS and wants to figure out the world for herself while also having you as a backup incase the world isn't what she expects it to be. You are a backup plan for as long as you wait for her. She wants you to move on so she doesn't feel guilty for moving on herself. She wants you to bear the burden and be the reason the relationship can't work out. The best thing you can do for her is to respond with "Ok then, I'll start moving on. I wish nothing but happiness for you". You will leave with strength and she will get the response she wants so she can move on with her life as she obviously wants to.
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