Woggle Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 Many men make the mistake of dating a good christian woman thinking that she is a nice girl and then one day she rebels against all of that and their head spins. The reason for this is that these women are not really nice but have never been exposed to real life. Once their moral compass is tested they go wild and a man is left wondering what the hell happened. A good woman is one who has been exposed to the ways of the world and has not lived a sheltered life. She has had her moral compass tested and passed with flying colors. Any thoughts on this?
TheLawmaker Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 I agree with you on this completely. An example is a girl I used to know. She led a very sheltered life, due to her religion, and then later on became pregnant with some douchebag's baby. Of course, the douchebag bailed, so she was a single mother. Now she's looking for a guy to take care of her and her baby, while she would have been better off just using protection and taking care of herself, rather than not knowing how to take care of herself. Oh, and did I mention that she was 26?
P&R Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 Many men make the mistake of dating a good christian woman thinking that she is a nice girl and then one day she rebels against all of that and their head spins. The reason for this is that these women are not really nice but have never been exposed to real life. Once their moral compass is tested they go wild and a man is left wondering what the hell happened. A good woman is one who has been exposed to the ways of the world and has not lived a sheltered life. She has had her moral compass tested and passed with flying colors. Any thoughts on this? Unfortunately this can happen to anyone. People change, and it's not always for the better. I've seen this happen to Christian, and non-Christians alike. There is no set formula weed out people like this.
tigressA Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 (edited) I was never religious (I was forced to go to church as a kid but I never liked it) but I was pretty sheltered. I didn't realize just how many people were having sex in junior high and especially high school--practically none of my friends were virgins by 15 or 16. I was never faced with any "vices" until I was a legal adult. I had all my 'firsts' in college--kiss, sex (both 18), boyfriend (19), being drunk (20). Some people think "ignorant" goes hand-in-hand with "sheltered". The only thing I was ignorant of was how pervasive certain practices were amongst my peers, especially my own friends. I was well-informed about those practices in general. I read a lot of books and my parents talked to me quite frankly. When I did start indulging I knew how to protect myself and never failed to do so. I had some pretty crazy times, and did things I never thought I was capable of though I did want to do them at the time; I never did anything I didn't want to. I did turn off a couple of guys and made a few more kind of uncomfortable with stories of my prior actions. I'm now 24 and am done sowing my oats. Edited June 28, 2011 by tigressA
grkBoy Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 I never witnessed "sheltered good girl" turn into "naive party girl". I have seen and dated a "sheltered good girl", but while we didn't end up lasting, she did go and marry what I consider a "good man". Only quirks I've seen is that she tended to try to be a control freak with an "I'm always right" mentality. Kind of like a sitcom mom. That and only now when she and her husband hit some harder financial times is she realizing the world isn't as "easy" as she assumed.
bigmomma1974 Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 I think this depends more on the woman then it does the relgion. I know many rreligious people who lead a respectful life and remained the good girl and same as the bad girl being the bad girl. Now days sex isnt hush hush people talk more about it and are more opinion to differnt views. Not all people but the majority I would think.
BetheButterfly Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 (edited) Many men make the mistake of dating a good christian woman thinking that she is a nice girl and then one day she rebels against all of that and their head spins. The reason for this is that these women are not really nice but have never been exposed to real life. Once their moral compass is tested they go wild and a man is left wondering what the hell happened. A good woman is one who has been exposed to the ways of the world and has not lived a sheltered life. She has had her moral compass tested and passed with flying colors. Any thoughts on this? This happened to my sister's boyfriend. He got married to a good Christian girl right after high school. When she was no longer in her parent's home, but with him, she started going out and drinking and having affairs. He tried to make it work, but she divorced him later because she didn't want to be married... to anybody. She wanted to party. That is her right, but it is sad that she didn't know this before getting married, thus preventing breaking his heart. My sister, however, has been out in the "world" for awhile, and has friends who are not Christian and even though she accepts them wholeheartedly, she does not do things she believes that God does not want her to do. She was not sheltered, but makes her decisions herself. Our parents didn't make them for her. She chose to be a Christian because she believes on her own. I agree with you that there is a big difference between being sheltered and actually having one's "moral compass tested and passed with flying colors." How you described this is very true. The thing is, nobody is perfect. Just being a "Christian" does not guarantee that one is "nice." There are people of all different beliefs who live more "Christian", or morally, than some Christians do. Christians are human too and struggle with different things same as everybody else. You're right though; it's when a person is tested and stand up for what they believe that counts. Just being sheltered from the world doesn't make a person strong in their beliefs. Jesus did not shelter himself from others. Rather, he helped people and even got criticized for eating with "sinners" and for healing people on the Sabbath. So, it is true what you say, that the moral compass needs to be tested to find out what is in a person's heart. Edited June 28, 2011 by BetheButterfly
Author Woggle Posted June 28, 2011 Author Posted June 28, 2011 I think you don't truly know a person until you see them get tested. People show their true colors under pressure.
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