mr.dream merchant Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 22 years old and lost my virginity at age 16. That's 6 years difference. Since then? I've been with more women in a sexual fashion..than I can count on two hands. :/ To some it sounds like bragging, to others it's disgusting, there's a few in between both ends of that spectrum..and then there's me, kind of just now realizing what those numbers mean, the amount of risk I put myself in, and all the times I could've been a young and demoralized father. Besides STDS and unwanted children, there's really nothing I can find "bad" about a young man getting out there and getting his lizard soaked. Lord knows we think about sticking something almost all day, damn near every couple of minutes or so. There's exceptions out there, but for now, let's just go with your Average Joe. Point is, it's pretty normal for men to look at numbers and praise them...sex is such a commodity to us but one that we don't come by often (at least with an attractive girl, fat bitches are always down to slob on some dude's knob - ugh, not mine). Some of you know my views, some of you don't. I'm the guy with notches on his bedpost....that doesn't want his next GF to share. Basically, I don't want to be with a woman in some form of serious fashion - if she's gotten around at least half as much as I did. I don't know why..wish I did! But I don't, but I know enough to recognize that my heart and brain tell me "NO BUENO!" when dealing with such a sexually liberal woman who wants commitment from me. Some of you also know that I don't think men and women are the same, in my opinion, we're far from it. And very much so in the most animal/beast like thing about us - sex and attraction. Can men and women be equal you ask? Well, I say it depends. Employment, basic human rights, etc - sure. I'm all for it. I just don't think equality can be obtained nor forced when it comes to sex, attraction, and dating. The reason being (in my opinion) that men and women function very different when it comes to this, and look for different things, have different needs, etc. There's been a number of women I've spoken to about this because they always seem to ask "________, you're a handsome guy, why are you single?" I tell them that I always come across women who have a lot of sexual history. They inquire about mine, I tell them, they scream "Well if it's okay for guys to do it why can't girls do it? That's a DOUBLE STANDARD! *echoes in background*" Sometimes I reply with "Men and women are different, it can't be a double standard if the parameters aren't the same." Other times I just nod and move onto something else. But I've been thinking about other solutions, ways, replies...to this outcry that alot of women seem to throw at men over being a loose cannon with their vagina. It seems that most women want to share the already miniscule amount of benefits to being a male....but not hold to their end of the bargain. So say I were this "holier than thou" gender equality practicing Mother Teresa incarnate that alot of these women so quickly become once their sexuality is questioned....my thoughts are, why does the double standard bull**** have to stop at just promiscuity? How many women would foot the bill on the first date with a guy? How many women would cold approach a guy they've had their eye on for a while? How many women would really care, love, and not grow tired of a very emotional, insecure, and at times...irrational and sensitive man? My idea is that there are "double standards" all over the place when it comes to sex, dating and attraction. But many of them, in the woman's favor. There's only a handful of double standards I can think of that work in a man's favor...but women are so bent on taking those from us, so bent on being a man in a sense. Why are women so worried about what men do and what we get away with? Why are women so focused on sticking it to men? Beating men at their own "game"? Bah, that's besides the point really. Women hide behind a ton of double standards. Most of the time their reason is "Because I have a vagina. Because I am a woman. Because that's just what a guy's gotta do to win me over." All of these requirements, standards...that they themselves don't even meet. Kind of makes me laugh. :/ Women are crazy.
ThsAmericanLife Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 You have probably figured out by now that it isn't all that tough to get sex if you have half a brain and can carry on a conversation. Wha-la. Welcome to life AFTER the 1960's. It isn't because you are a super stud Mr. 22 year old. You just happen to be good at finding women who like sex. Good for you!! you are well on your way to maybe, someday, having a satisfying sexual AND emotional relationship with a woman... that is, if you don't turn into an arrogant A-hole like it sounds like you are becoming. You want to trash women who want to "explore their sexuality" like you are? Ok, what kind of exploring would you be doing if they didn't exist? Regarding the other so-called double standards you list. I know plenty of women who will share the bill on any date. I'm one of them. Always have been. I see no reason why either person should be expected to foot the bill. Regarding approaching men... I have in my online profile that I PREFER to find them. The interesting thing is... alot of men feel uncomfortable with a woman who wants to take care of themselves, are independent, or who approach them first. As bizarre as you might find that. But I digress. Gender roles are changing at lightening speed (thank goodness). Noone knows what to believe or assume anymore. All that said... I have my doubts that you are even capable of having a serious relationship with any woman (um, girl, in your case)... and so are putting notches on your bedpost to make yourself feel better. That's ok. You'll probably outgrow that. Most real men do.
Woggle Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 I don't agree with double standards but there are many that work in a woman's favor but I don't see too many willing to give them up. There are even legal consequences in America to some of the double standards against men like divorce and family court and violence in a relationship. The only thing promiscuous women get in this country is social disapproval. Like I said I don't agree with any of them but if people want to talk about double standards let's look at everything on the table and not just one thing which in many cases is just in excuse some women use to cheat. At the same time men can't complain about gold diggers and then be afraid to date a woman who can pay her own way or complain about a lack of traditional women and get mad at being the provider.
musemaj11 Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 I have been thinking over gender social differences a lot. And my conclusion is that in overall, men and women have their own advantages and disadvantages and they kind of even out. Men's advantages revolve mainly around freedom (Ex: Can be a complete slut without getting a negative stigma, need not worry becoming barren by his 30s, judged by status rather than looks thus more able to make up for lack of physical attractiveness, etc). On the other hand, women's advantages revolve around comfort (Ex: Can expect to be asked out, can expect to be paid for, can expect to be driven around, can expect to be provided for, can expect to be protected, is not judged by financial success, etc).
BetheButterfly Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 22 years old and lost my virginity at age 16. That's 6 years difference. Since then? I've been with more women in a sexual fashion..than I can count on two hands. :/ To some it sounds like bragging, to others it's disgusting, there's a few in between both ends of that spectrum..and then there's me, kind of just now realizing what those numbers mean, the amount of risk I put myself in, and all the times I could've been a young and demoralized father. Besides STDS and unwanted children, there's really nothing I can find "bad" about a young man getting out there and getting his lizard soaked. Lord knows we think about sticking something almost all day, damn near every couple of minutes or so. There's exceptions out there, but for now, let's just go with your Average Joe. Point is, it's pretty normal for men to look at numbers and praise them...sex is such a commodity to us but one that we don't come by often (at least with an attractive girl, fat bitches are always down to slob on some dude's knob - ugh, not mine). Some of you know my views, some of you don't. I'm the guy with notches on his bedpost....that doesn't want his next GF to share. Basically, I don't want to be with a woman in some form of serious fashion - if she's gotten around at least half as much as I did. I don't know why..wish I did! But I don't, but I know enough to recognize that my heart and brain tell me "NO BUENO!" when dealing with such a sexually liberal woman who wants commitment from me. Some of you also know that I don't think men and women are the same, in my opinion, we're far from it. And very much so in the most animal/beast like thing about us - sex and attraction. Can men and women be equal you ask? Well, I say it depends. Employment, basic human rights, etc - sure. I'm all for it. I just don't think equality can be obtained nor forced when it comes to sex, attraction, and dating. The reason being (in my opinion) that men and women function very different when it comes to this, and look for different things, have different needs, etc. There's been a number of women I've spoken to about this because they always seem to ask "________, you're a handsome guy, why are you single?" I tell them that I always come across women who have a lot of sexual history. They inquire about mine, I tell them, they scream "Well if it's okay for guys to do it why can't girls do it? That's a DOUBLE STANDARD! *echoes in background*" Sometimes I reply with "Men and women are different, it can't be a double standard if the parameters aren't the same." Other times I just nod and move onto something else. But I've been thinking about other solutions, ways, replies...to this outcry that alot of women seem to throw at men over being a loose cannon with their vagina. It seems that most women want to share the already miniscule amount of benefits to being a male....but not hold to their end of the bargain. So say I were this "holier than thou" gender equality practicing Mother Teresa incarnate that alot of these women so quickly become once their sexuality is questioned....my thoughts are, why does the double standard bull**** have to stop at just promiscuity? How many women would foot the bill on the first date with a guy? How many women would cold approach a guy they've had their eye on for a while? How many women would really care, love, and not grow tired of a very emotional, insecure, and at times...irrational and sensitive man? My idea is that there are "double standards" all over the place when it comes to sex, dating and attraction. But many of them, in the woman's favor. There's only a handful of double standards I can think of that work in a man's favor...but women are so bent on taking those from us, so bent on being a man in a sense. Why are women so worried about what men do and what we get away with? Why are women so focused on sticking it to men? Beating men at their own "game"? Bah, that's besides the point really. Women hide behind a ton of double standards. Most of the time their reason is "Because I have a vagina. Because I am a woman. Because that's just what a guy's gotta do to win me over." All of these requirements, standards...that they themselves don't even meet. Kind of makes me laugh. :/ Women are crazy. It really has nothing to do with "double standards" or "bad". What matters is what you believe your life's purpose is and your goals in life. What is the purpose of your life? If you believe you are living just to have sex, than of course you will have less standards in what, when, and why you do so. For many people, life is more than just having sex. Life is more than just behaving like an animal in heat. What are the goals you want to accomplish in the limited time span of your life? Do you want to make lots of money? Do you want to have sex with as many women as possible? Do you want to love a wonderful woman and be loved by her, and have a family? Do you want to help people in need? Do you want to become famous for something? Do you want to inspire others? What exactly are your goals in your # years of existence? If having sex with whoever is one of your goals, ok. That is your life. However, many times goals do not mix, such as having sex with as many women as possible and loving a wonderful woman and having a family. Why do those goals not mix? Because loving a woman includes making loving to her, and not going after others, same as her loving you includes making love to you, and not going after others.
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