Mic41 Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 Okay so before i get into detail... I'm eighteen years old and im a pretty introverted guy. I honestly don't mean to sound conceded, but girls always complement me on my looks, style, and physique. All through out highschool girls would hit on me, but i could never get anywhere with them because i never know what to say... So heres a common situation. I'll take a girl out to the movies & dinner (keeping it simple) and by the end of the night we always end up alone in the car. I'm positive that if i make a move (as in lean in for a kiss) she would gladly accept, but the problem is i get nervous and don't know what to say. The night usually ends with an AWKWARD silence followed by an awkward hug. So i guess my question is, what is something i can say that will set me up so i can lean in for a kiss while we're in a car? for example: "What should we do next...?" something like that (but obviously a little better) to break an awkward silence and allow me to make a move. Thanks!
mhm407 Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 If you know the moment is right for a kiss, you don't have to say anything! Just do it. In these cases the awkward silence is best filled with a kiss rather than by talking!
rafallus Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 Making a move actually starts small and leads to bigger consequences overtime. When you kiss, you have usually touched each other quite a bit, so it's obvious thing to do. And you touched so much, because there were so random taps/brushes that grew more frequent, longer and overt.
Excalibur1814 Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 Who's to say that you should wait to get in the car before the first kiss? Stop thinking. Your mind is a wealth of power but at the same time it can trip us at each hurdle with that little voice, "what do I do now, do this, no, do that". To be in the car or out on a date in the first place without the lady leaving in the first hour is in itself fantastic! Examples: Met a lady for a date once, later she went home and we agreed to meet up the next day (I didn't kiss her on purpose). The next day when we met at hers I walked in, she said "hello", and I said, "There's something I'd like to get out of the way first..." Looked into her eyes, waited one second to let her know what was about to happen and then I kissed her. WooHooo! The car is now the brick wall so remove that brick wall. The next time you you leave the restaurant/cinema, as you're approaching the car, do the same thing or even be directly honest: "So... as we've had a great time, I'm wondering when we'll have our first kiss.." You've just opened up the perfect avenue for her to say, "How about now?"
smudge21 Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 I too find it awkward for that first move and it did trouble me in my youth... in fact, in some ways it still does. A few ways I've found to initiate things was to always work that first kiss into the conversation. Most recently was a time was with a girl at mine, we were laughing and joking (and there was plenty of flirting). I recall her laughing at something I'd done or said and my response was simply "if you don't stop laughing I'm going to kiss you to shut you up.." - she didn't, so I did. Obviously I knew it's what she wanted, but actually bringing it into the conversation like that seemed to take away some of that pressure. Another time when I was much younger I do remember actually telling a girl I really wanted to kiss her but was unsure of what she wanted. Her smile and the fact she moved closer answered that question. There is nothing worse than an uncomfortable silence and the pressure can really build up. Personally, I find all the build up to that first kiss is one of the most exciting times in a new relationship.
TheLawmaker Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 Hell, I am 28, and still don't know what to say to girls! Just say whatever is on your mind. Don't mention sex, though.
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