is this allright?

[jose eduardo]

after 3 monts of nc, is this letter allright?

 

 

Hey what’sup?

 

You know, i was thinking as of lately about the breakup, and well, about how much I’ve been missing you. Last Thursday i was driving down the road, and all of a sudden the wind blew a lot of dirt into the car, my windows were open, and it made me remember we used to joke that we had to roll them up to not get lip cancer, It made me think about the fact that you weren’t in the passenger’s seat to laugh it out with me.

 

This simple event made me bring back several memories, also what caused the breakup, I realized I had stuff to work on myself, and certainly I have.

 

A couple of weeks ago I was going out with a girl I met at “Kaah”, she was adorable, she had something that was close to my anorexic Brazilian model’s body girl I used to joke about having lol, I remember I told you about that before we started dating, she had an amazing smile, she was very outgoing, and very into me, but to be honest I was the only reason we didn’t work out, I looked into her eyes, and saw nothing, even though she was outgoing I couldn’t continue a long conversation with her, because I was just not feeling it right, she was not you.

 

I apologizefor what I put us through, I realize I had trust issues to work on, and I certainly did, I always saw it the other way around, but now I realize the person I never trusted was myself.

 

You mentioned you wanted to catch up with each other, so here’s what’s been going on through my mind lately, what I’ve been doing since we walk different path’s is another story, I prefer saving for another moment.

 

I wish you the best, and hope someday we can meet and talk things out, because like I did,I guess you also kept thoughts to yourself after the breakup.

 

Love, Lalo.

Edited June 28, 2011 by jose eduardo

[citrusdrop1688]

Uh... I can think of a couple things i might change but i would probably start with the mentioning of an ex and of a new girl you met out. No ex wants to hear about that. Especially in their first contact with u after three months

[Lemontang]

Personally and from experience I wouldn't send it at all. What are you hoping to achieve from this? Firstly she broke it off with you, if anything she already knows you want her back since she did the break up. She should be contacting you if she wants you back and if she's not then sorry dude but move on. I know in the early stages hearing that is hard to hear, but frankly the sooner you pick yourself up and go bout your life the better things will be for you.

 

I for one don't intend to give you any false hope, but if your up and about living life instead of sitting on your hands going "woes me". Then your going to come across as someone far more attractive. Fake it till you make it as they say and she may catch wind of this new you and contact you. If anything she has to contact you, and like it's said so many times on here. If she's not on your doorstep asking you back, then she's simply fishing and not worth investing the time and heart break in.

 

So if you are still going to send it. You need to be willing to accept that you won't get anything out of it in return....in other words if she doesn't respond don't do a followup.