vanek26 Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 Hey everyone. I've used this site a lot over the past couple of years and you've all been very helpful. I was a virgin when I made an account here and have since had 8 sexual partners and countless hookups. However, I find myself in another rut. I'd love some insight. I dealt with a lot of heartache during my dating experiences. Plenty of girls had shown fleeting interest and then pulled away completely for no apparent reason. I did however find someone in February and we hit it off really well. We had sex by the third date and spent a lot of time together. Eventually, we decided to enter into an official relationship. It is what I always wanted. I thought that a relationship would validate my efforts and bring an end to my misery with women. But unfortunately, it's been just the opposite. Almost immediately, I became bored with this girl. I'm lusting over other women like crazy, to the point where every semi-attractive girl I encounter is the subject of my next fantasy. My girlfriend suddenly seems really unattractive, to the point where I'm slightly ashamed to be seen with her in public. It's almost a case of, "if this girl gave it up to -me- so easily, she really can't be much of a catch." In the meantime, I've been really stand-offish with her. Our conversations are trite and I make excuses not to see her. And I know it's not her fault, but I'm even starting to resent her. Part of the problem is that I'm a perfectionist. I don't want to have to settle for someone 'in my league'. I want to get the best girl that I can. I want to bring her out and have people marvel at the fact that she chose me. This may be a lofty goal. And I may be throwing my girl away because of this insecurity I have. But it is mounting and I don't know what to do about it. My close friend is living the life of a player. He has about three girls who he hooks up with on the regular, and I'm stuck with one who I'm not even attracted to. I know this makes me sound horrible, but I can't help how I feel. I went through High School without getting any attention from girls. And I've worked tirelessly to improve my image and get myself into the game. I guess I just want to experience the rush of being the center of attention, and the initial high I felt with this girl has vanished. Your thoughts?
Janesays Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 You sound really immature and....empty? That's the first word that popped in my head: empty. I feel sorry for you.
Cee Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 I think you have enough self-awareness that you know your path will lead to nowhere. Dating someone because she's out of your league and you will be the center of attention is a fantasy. Nobody can validate your existence. Only you can. And ask your women friends about your player friend sleeping with 3 women. I think they won't be impressed. I do suggest breaking up with your girlfriend. Not only are you not attracted to her, but you are treating her poorly. Cut her loose and get back on the dating trail. You will quickly remember what it was like. The grass isn't greener, but go ahead and do some field research for yourself.
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