Tryingagain Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 I need advice. Am I too sensitive? In a nutshell..1 yr dating. We are both older and both have been divorced. I bought a small inexpensive engraved gift. He didn't get me anything. Actually I would of been happy with a hug and a kiss. Just some acknowledgement of the day. But no. Maybe time means nothing to him but it did to me. He is never affectionate. A short kiss at night but thats all. I am not used to no affection at all. We have been living together now for a few months. It's almost like we are roomates. I am trying to understand him as he says he has always been that way. I guess I need to just suck it up and realize in every other way he's great. Sometimes I wish we could just cuddle for five minutes..advice? Am I just emotional?
mhm407 Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 (edited) I don't think you're wrong in wanting some acknowledgment from him on your anniversary; that is not being overly emotional. It sounds like he has an extreme case of what I call 'emotional constipation'. It's probably a result of his upbringing, and sadly it probably won't change, especially since he doesn't seem to think there's anything wrong with it. Plus a lifetime of repression has to be a very tough habit to break, even if he wants to. I think this kind of behavior would be a major problem for most people; only you can decide whether you can live with it or not. Edited June 28, 2011 by mhm407
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