SCG_Sasa1111 Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 Ok I know many of you will tell me that i shouldn't do it. But after months of pain and suffering and the fact that shes with the guy she left me for after 4.5 years. She was the most serious relationship I have ever been in. I have come across some information about the guy shes with (a guy I knew- and met through her back in 2008). He came into the picture when I went on vacation and who knows what things he said or promised to her to make her think twice about us. I want to do this because of the doucehbag he turned out to be by trying to get with her while I was gone. Second I want to do this because she is a bigger idiot for going with him in the end. I want to show her just how much of a mistake she made. Point is I found out some information from a close friend of mine that went to the same highschool as him. If this information gets to my ex. i am pretty sure it would be the nail in the coffin in terms of their relationship. what im tryin to say is..she ruined my life and messed things up on our end. i'd like to return the favour by showing her that her new guy is a huge douchebag and lier. Any idea on how to approach getting this across to her? I know many of you will tell me to not do it. But I seriously do not want to let her walk all over me and make it seem like I will just let it happen even after 4.5 years for her to leave me for someone else like that- I need to do this for my own sanity because I feel like she played me and left me out to dry and I didn't do anything about it. How do I approach this situation? The information my friend gave me about her new bf is deal breaking so you can imagine how bad it is. I have been on NC for about 3 months now. Is it worth breaking it to tell her? Ye for sure it is. I just need a way to do it to let her know. I don't have to be the one who says it. It can be a friend; i just want to show her how much of a mistake she made; thinking hes all honest and everything with her.
usabup Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 Ok I know many of you will tell me that i shouldn't do it. But after months of pain and suffering and the fact that shes with the guy she left me for after 4.5 years. She was the most serious relationship I have ever been in. I have come across some information about the guy shes with (a guy I knew- and met through her back in 2008). He came into the picture when I went on vacation and who knows what things he said or promised to her to make her think twice about us. I want to do this because of the doucehbag he turned out to be by trying to get with her while I was gone. Second I want to do this because she is a bigger idiot for going with him in the end. I want to show her just how much of a mistake she made. Point is I found out some information from a close friend of mine that went to the same highschool as him. If this information gets to my ex. i am pretty sure it would be the nail in the coffin in terms of their relationship. what im tryin to say is..she ruined my life and messed things up on our end. i'd like to return the favour by showing her that her new guy is a huge douchebag and lier. Any idea on how to approach getting this across to her? I know many of you will tell me to not do it. But I seriously do not want to let her walk all over me and make it seem like I will just let it happen even after 4.5 years for her to leave me for someone else like that- I need to do this for my own sanity because I feel like she played me and left me out to dry and I didn't do anything about it. How do I approach this situation? The information my friend gave me about her new bf is deal breaking so you can imagine how bad it is. I have been on NC for about 3 months now. Is it worth breaking it to tell her? Ye for sure it is. I just need a way to do it to let her know. I don't have to be the one who says it. It can be a friend; i just want to show her how much of a mistake she made; thinking hes all honest and everything with her. Yeah man, do it! All is fair in love and war! He stiched you up, so return the favour.
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 I recommend not doing anything, she will take it harder when/if she finds out further down the line and has put more effort into their relationship. BUT... you seem dedicated and I don't think she's a good person from what I've read. You shouldn't be the one to break it to her, find a mutual friend that you know won't mention you and have them tell her. it will be much more believable if it comes from a third-party and you are not part of the picture.
Kilty Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 Really need to know what the information you have on him is .............. However the best satisfaction you will have is if it crashes and burns without you having any input - which if this guy is the type of person you describe then i cant see him not slipping up before long
lalalandman Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 (edited) Hmmm, whatever information you have on the other dude, if he's smart enough, he can just deny deny deny. Best to let her find out on her own, to be perfectly honest. Otherwise, you'll just end up cementing their relationship if you try to get in between. They'll see you as a threat to their fairytale relationship and come closer together. Natural process dude. Plus, trying to cause drama like that is something chicks do. Edited June 27, 2011 by lalalandman
batsheba Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 no, do not do anything unless it is a matter of life and death. please stay NC. i am sure at this point whatever you say will be misconstrued. you might even be pictured to be the antagonist.
Rinas Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 If you tell her yourself you'll just come off as the bitter ex who wants to ruin something good. She'd likely not believe you, and jump into his arms some more. I understand that she hurt you, but it's best to move on and let her learn for herself.
Ginger Beer Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 I've been in this situation before, except she ended it for some ****ty reason but I think she had GIGS and wanted her ex back, he was stringing her along. I knew loads of gory details about their relationship, loads of times he cheated, made her look silly, used her for sex, strung her along etc etc... Eventually I couldn't take it anymore and I sent her a drunken email telling her everything I knew. I had been holding it in for months. My advice would be, if you care about her (and think long and hard about this), don't say anything, stick to NC, I was so worried she'd do something stupid after I exposed all the stuff I knew, I was actually sick twice. If you don't, well I suppose you can if you want to. Send an anonymous letter or something.
Recommended Posts