Author Ace82 Posted June 28, 2011 Author Posted June 28, 2011 kuite09, I'll hold off til then, however i can see this being very difficult. I the beginning it seemed easier not to call or txt her...maybe because she was giving me attitude... so i stopped calling or getting in contact. she thanked me for that as she got time to think and decide that the break was for the best... and thats why i have this fear of loosing her for good. im sure shes living on the notion outta sight outta mind.
Rinas Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 My partner of almost 6 years. We broke up briefly for a period (I left him). We had NC for awhile. I decided to give it a shot to work it out. However, that was only once he stopped contacting with me and pleading. (As I found that unappealing seeing as I was the dumper) However, each case is different, there is no guarantee that things will fix and that it will be a fairytale again. That being said, I'm unsure if I'm going to leave this relationship again. If I do, it's straight to NC. I always give advice that I take myself. If time goes by and she wants to reconcile, that is your decision to make. Maybe by then you'll be over her and moved on.
Author Ace82 Posted June 29, 2011 Author Posted June 29, 2011 Rinas, what made you try again with your SO? was it something he did aside from sticking with NC? or did he woo u back since u were the dumper? im just so hopelessly lost right now, my mind is racing i did so much reading and walking today. It was all good until night when im alone and just thinking of her; if she had a good day, hows she doing etc. eventually in time things will change i hope but for now its killing me. Is the relationship stronger now then it was the first time? I really just want to have an opportunity to try and fix things. thnx for listening and responding, much appreciated and you too Kutie09.
Kuite09 Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 Rinas, what made you try again with your SO? was it something he did aside from sticking with NC? or did he woo u back since u were the dumper? im just so hopelessly lost right now, my mind is racing i did so much reading and walking today. It was all good until night when im alone and just thinking of her; if she had a good day, hows she doing etc. eventually in time things will change i hope but for now its killing me. Is the relationship stronger now then it was the first time? I really just want to have an opportunity to try and fix things. thnx for listening and responding, much appreciated and you too Kutie09. Your are most welcome Ace. We both are in the same boat and Im just hoping one day things change. I need to continue NC becuz its the best for me at this point. Just like you, im scared he forgets about me too
Rinas Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 Nope, once I'm gone there is no way to woo me. At the time I just needed my own time apart, it was for me. When a woman makes a decision, its best not to attempt to woo her back. Leave her be, no NC. If she still cares, she'll see what she is missing and try and reconcile. As for my relationship, it's not much stronger. It may go to a halt if things don't fix. But, I'll be able to live with that decision.
Author Ace82 Posted June 30, 2011 Author Posted June 30, 2011 I am so conflicted. I agree with your Rinas, due to the fact that once she amkes her mind up about things, its hard to change it. However Kutie09 make a great point about the other possibly forgetting you.( or atleast the fear) Deep down i believe that since i havent really said anything since the break up other than ok fine i accept i havent pleaded my case or said anything on the matter. I really want to see where her head is at, i still havent responded to her email and i dont want to seem like im ignoring her. This is how i feel and i need much help on the subject. In my mind, i feel as if i send her an email just stating how i feel without sounding needy or anything just getting my point across about us would atleast lead to an answer i believe i need to her... either she still cares or does not i believe that i twill help me move on... now that would be breaking NC however should i be pinning over the "what if's" or should i hear the truth once more after several weeks?( unless things have changed and she misses me) how can i know for sure? i filled with what if's and i mean people say if i go NC and she was missing me she would call me or something..what if thats not her personality tho? what if she waiting for me to start convo cause she thinks im mad at her cause i didnt answer her email? This is the what if's im going thru? someone help me out.
Kuite09 Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 I am so conflicted. I agree with your Rinas, due to the fact that once she amkes her mind up about things, its hard to change it. However Kutie09 make a great point about the other possibly forgetting you.( or atleast the fear) Deep down i believe that since i havent really said anything since the break up other than ok fine i accept i havent pleaded my case or said anything on the matter. I really want to see where her head is at, i still havent responded to her email and i dont want to seem like im ignoring her. This is how i feel and i need much help on the subject. In my mind, i feel as if i send her an email just stating how i feel without sounding needy or anything just getting my point across about us would atleast lead to an answer i believe i need to her... either she still cares or does not i believe that i twill help me move on... now that would be breaking NC however should i be pinning over the "what if's" or should i hear the truth once more after several weeks?( unless things have changed and she misses me) how can i know for sure? i filled with what if's and i mean people say if i go NC and she was missing me she would call me or something..what if thats not her personality tho? what if she waiting for me to start convo cause she thinks im mad at her cause i didnt answer her email? This is the what if's im going thru? someone help me out. Hey Ace, Honestly, no matter what your going to do what YOU want to do. Just like I did, everyone told me not to call or text or email my ex but I did text him cuz I thats what MY HEART told me to do and I just forgot what everyone told me and I did it. I did not regret doing it becuz I did get a reply back atleast and he didnt ignore me. So at the end of the day, YOU DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO! We can only tell you so much and tell you NOT to break NC but you do what you feel you need to do to keep yourself sane in regards to the whole situation. Good Luck
Author Ace82 Posted June 30, 2011 Author Posted June 30, 2011 So i broke NC and this is my findings.... Basically we talked and it was pleasant, until the final moments of the conversation were she asks me if i have been dating or seeing anyone.... I reply not really just been focusing on myself and what not... then i ask her and she tells me well sort of... i continue obviously and she says that she met someone and are talking on the phone but not "dating" per say. ... I am so heart broken right now... i dont even know what to say...... i just dont know what to say at all... 3 weeks in and shes met someone already. plz help
Kuite09 Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 So i broke NC and this is my findings.... Basically we talked and it was pleasant, until the final moments of the conversation were she asks me if i have been dating or seeing anyone.... I reply not really just been focusing on myself and what not... then i ask her and she tells me well sort of... i continue obviously and she says that she met someone and are talking on the phone but not "dating" per say. ... I am so heart broken right now... i dont even know what to say...... i just dont know what to say at all... 3 weeks in and shes met someone already. plz help I don't even understand why she asked you that question....thats no ones business. She asked you pretty much to put her damn business out there. Ace, don't let it get to you PLEASE! You gotta stay strong about this, its all bull****. What else did you guys talk about? how long you spoke to her for?
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