bellasmith Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 We've been together over three years and are getting married next year. He has never been crazy about sex. The first six months, we had sex about 3-4 times/week and about twice/month during the rest of the first year. After that, it became once/month. The longest was 7 months that we had gone without sex. I think it's really weird that a 34 year old man could go wihout sex for this long. I tried to ask him if he was masterbating, if he wasn't interested in sex with me, or if he wants to try something kinky, he said no, he enjoys sex when we have sex and he's not into anything kinky at all. I know it's not because of my appearance because I know I'm a pretty girl. He usually says, "you're really pretty". He loves me so much in every other way except the sex department. Wherever he goes, he asks me to go with him. He told me I'm his perfect companion. He's super affectionate toward me and always sweet to me. He told me he had the same amount of sex we had in our first 6 months in his previous relationships and none of those relastionships last more than 6 months. He said maybe he's just the kind of guy who doesn't care about sex because he rarely thinks about sex. But come one, a young man without sex 7 months and could even go longer if I wasn't complaining? He only initiate sex after I complained about how we haven't had sex for...months/weeks. He always promises that he'll work on it but months would past and nothing happened, and I have to have the talk with him again asking him why he still hasn't tried to work on it yet. I've been so sad these past couple years and have been asking him to see a doctor but he said it's embarrassing. We just ordered a testosterone test kit and will know if he has low testosterone in two weeks. Please give me some advice as I am so desperate. Is my boyfriend addicted to masterbation? I don't think he's cheating on me because he loves me very much. Besides 9 hours at work which is two minutes from home, he's with me all the time as we live together. We tells me that he would love it if I come to his office anytime. Though, he wakes up a few hours before me. Last year, when I went to grap the KY jelly for us, I found that it was 95% used up, I asked him about it and he admitted that he sometimes masterbated in the shower before work. I was really upset because he knew I'd been wanting sex with him. He promised and swore to not masterbating again but don't quite believe it. What I really need to know is if it's possible for a man in his early 30s to go without sex for over half a year? I really appreciate any suggestion or advice.
Dust Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 You usually don’t even need lube if you are doing it in the shower. The water, and soapy hands if you really need it will be enough. He probably masturbates a lot like multiple times a week. That’s really sad. My guess is maybe he is also out of shape. I think its really sad to have to masturbate when in a relationship. You should be able to have regular sex while in a relationship. Don’t marry him the lack of passion could actually lead to him ending, if you don’t first.
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