Jade16 Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 Hey, my name's Jade, and I could use some advise. the problem is, I work with this guy, who is only a few months older than myself, and I like him. I've never dated anyone before and being honest, I've never been kissed or anything else. I'm nearly seventeen and I want to know how to tell if this guy likes me as much as I like him. I could also do with some advise on how to move forwards with the whole thing. I don't know if he likes me, I don' know what to do or say to him and he seems kinda shy, so will I have to be the one who makes the first move or not? thanks. if anyone can help, please do so ASAP!
Teknoe Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 if a guy likes you, odds are you will know it. he'll find any reason to be around you, talk to you (more than necessary). if he asks you out for any reason, it's a good sign (i.e. coffee)
spacegirlspiff Posted July 3, 2011 Posted July 3, 2011 There's a 5-step procedure that a guy will follow, to let a girl know that he's interested. 1) Eye contact. You know how two people tend to not look each other in the eye for too long? That there's usually a time limit before both people look away? Well, if you like this girl, maintain eye contact just a little longer than the time limit. Look at her just a little longer than necessary. Then give her a little smile before looking away. Don't stare, don't glue your eyes to her all the time. Just don't be afraid to show that you like looking at her. 2) Make her laugh. It's one thing to get her to talk comfortably with you. It's another thing for her to enjoy talking to you, so much so that she remembers how much she enjoys talking to you. Be at your wittiest and most charming, put some effort into making her laugh. Don't be too shy to say something like, "Hey, wanna hear a joke?" Then tell her a dozen jokes, one after another. Let her know that you're purposely trying to make her happy. 3) Remember the things she says. Listen to what she has to say, then show her that you listened. If she mentioned her dog Poochie, greet her with "Hi, how's Poochie?" the next time you see her. If she mentioned she has trouble sleeping, ask her if she slept well the next day. If she likes a certain TV show, find out when the show airs, then ask her how was last night's episode the next day. Better yet, watch the show, so that you can talk about it with her. You can even tell her you didn't like the show - the fact that you watched it just because of her is flattering enough. 4) Physical proximity/contact. This is a tricky one, so be very careful. Position yourself closer to her - not too close, but a little closer than normal. You know the distance between friends, and the distance between bf and gf? You want to be exactly halfway in-between. (And better make sure you're wearing deodorant!) Similarly, give her a little touch every now and then, but be careful. Touch her shoulder when you want to get her attention. When talking to her, pat her on her arm to emphasize a point; if you've gotten close enough to her, you can try her thigh. When walking together, put your hand on the small of her back to guide her in a different direction. Just don't let your hand linger there too long. You know what's the best thing about all these? They are measurable. Meaning, you will know instantly whether or not they're working. If she likes you, she will return the eye contact with you; she will laugh at all your jokes; she will appreciate the fact that you remember things about her; she will stand close to you, and she will touch you. If she doesn't, then you'll know she's not interested. By doing these things, you're not only showing her you like her, you're also giving her the option of gently rejecting you - or subtly encouraging you. And if you're getting all the right signals from her, it's time to move on to: 5) Ask her out. Just you and her. None of the rest of your gang. Nobody else. Yes, it's a date. It could be a movie, it could be a drink at a coffee place, or if you're really confident, it could be dinner at a nice restaurant. Don't treat it as if it's a big deal, as if by saying yes she'll be making a big commitment to you. Has he done any of the above?
Forever Learning Posted July 3, 2011 Posted July 3, 2011 (edited) Well done! Just remember you are both 17, such a hard age in life, because so many times guys are not looking for a long term relationship, they just want to get laid and put a few notches on their belt (or bedpost or whatever the old saying is). That equals broken heart for you! If you are the romantic type. Some people aren't, by the way. They just flit like a butterfly on to the next guy, and chalk it up to another life experience. Its all how you perceive your experiences in life. So unless you don't care too much are are just looking for some experience yourself, beware and ready yourself. Best to take it slow and get to know each other so you don't have just a roll in the hay and then a broken heart for months afterwards because you wanted something more. Take it slow and have lots of fun. All the best to you. Edited July 3, 2011 by Forever Learning
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