nini Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 Guys, please help me....2 major things on my mind atm (situation is low contact): 1) Am sooooo tempted to lash out, call him and say "F**k off u f****g f****r, you f*****g dont deserve my love and you're going to rot in hell for causing me such trauma to the point that I'm probably going to fail my exams and lose my job". But I dont want to give him the satisfaction of (a) she obviously cant cope (b) I've obviously made the right decision to dump her. 2) There's this BBQ on Sunday that I was invited to by his work colleague based on the fact that I was his girlfriend. Because my boyfriend hasnt told anyone at work that we've broken up (I dont know his reasons, but he's still got my pics on FB, his profile picture is of us together), the guy having the bbq texted me to say I should defo go. Now, the guy having the bbq is the only guy at his work I've met, and so I'm not going to know anyone else there. Should I still go? Also, how shud I act infront of him and his work ppl if I do go? I want him to regret not wanting to be with me. Any thoughts, pls?
thelovingkind Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 I would not go to (2), because based on (1) you are clearly in no position to be around your boyfriend in the near future. As for what you want to do in (1), don't. You will get approximately ten seconds worth of satisfaction from it, followed by days and days of recriminations over having lashed out in such a futile, embarrassing manner. This situation, in my opinion, calls for a shift in gears from low contact to no contact so that you can begin focusing on yourself and let the healing start.
Author nini Posted June 27, 2011 Author Posted June 27, 2011 Thanks for replying thelovingkind I just feel like he's ripped my heart out and shattered it into 10000 pieces, and doesnt even care...but i guess I should have seen it coming...at the end of the day, he cheated on me with his ex and on his ex with me (basically 2 timing us for 3 months,this was in 2007) and then when we found out, he dumped her pretty bad and she kept calling/crying/begging for him to at least talk to her, to tell her where it went wrong and he just blanked her and told her to f**k off... At that time, I thought 'Oh he loves me sooo much, he chose me etc etc' and couldnt see how cruel and selfish he had been to her...karma's a b**** eh?
Lucy2011 Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 I wouldn't go either. Its not worth putting yourself in a position where you might say/do something you will regret. I'd go do something else when the bbq is on you'll enjoy, go see a movie or something and take your mind off it for a couple of hours x
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