chevronone Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 My current ex and I separated approximately two weeks ago, after a two year relationship. The break up was amicable (at best) and initiated by myself. One day my ex brought some things to my attention, was very emotional and I, regrettably, put up a wall and emotionally checked-out. Two days later, they slept with my ex. I was absolutely destroyed. I felt betrayed, dishonored and embarrassed. For the person I loved, although we were not a couple, obviously did not respect me enough to show me dignity. I called them to express my anger and hurt, and we discussed that possibly our break-up was done in haste. We briefly spoke about "fixing" out relationship and how sorry they were for doing what they did. Two days later, they did the very same thing. Albeit alcohol was involved, my ex still slept with my ex...sigh. I still love them, and we need time apart...I truly feel out break-up was in haste and a knee-jerk reaction, but I am not sure I can look past them sleeping and maintaining a friendship with my ex. When I talk to them they always speak how much they miss and love me, but they still violated my honor. I don't want to cut this person out of my life, I still want to be with them, but they are unsure. I know what the logical thing is to...hold my head up, initiate "no-contact" and sail away...but I can't seem to life the anchor. Help?
Maoky Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 I'll help you lift the anchor =) It's going to hurt not being able to keep them as your friend, but it's going to hurt even more if you do try to keep them in your life so soon after a breakup. Things come and go in life, and we take what we can from those memories and start piecing together what went wrong and what went right, so that the next time we open ourselves up to someone we can do better. Please try your hardest and move on. Respect yourself enough not to put yourself through unnecessary pain right now.
citrusdrop1688 Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 Im actually a little confused by your post. Who is the "they" that slept with your ex? And then it said that your ex slept with your ex? is that correct?
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