AprilShowers Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 my friend's boyfriend told her she has to delete her account or he will leave her. She keeps getting friend requests from this same guy, she ignores it then he sends the request again and that made her boyfriend mad. What do you all think of this, is her boyfriend over reacting? He still has his facebook and does not plan on getting rid of it.
smudge21 Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 He sounds a bit controlling and insecure. People have friends, accept it. You can't expect someone to change their entire lives just because one person asks them to. Think they need to discuss these issues now rather than letting them build up. There's clearly more there and simply deleting FB won't fix the problem, it will only mask it for a few days.
oaks Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 my friend's boyfriend told her she has to delete her account or he will leave her. She keeps getting friend requests from this same guy, she ignores it then he sends the request again and that made her boyfriend mad. What do you all think of this, is her boyfriend over reacting? He still has his facebook and does not plan on getting rid of it. She can report the guy next time he sends the friend request, and there's probably an option to block him, too. If he's sending repeated Friend requests then as well as her ignoring them, he must also be cancelling the friend request (otherwise it says 'friend request sent' or something like that where you would normally get the button to send a friend request) each time before he sends another. She needs to report/block the guy, and the bf needs to grow up otherwise I hate to think what happens if he sees someone looking at his gf when they are out together!
blackmagik Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 my friend's boyfriend told her she has to delete her account or he will leave her. She keeps getting friend requests from this same guy, she ignores it then he sends the request again and that made her boyfriend mad. What do you all think of this, is her boyfriend over reacting? He still has his facebook and does not plan on getting rid of it. He is way overreacting and very insecure if he can't let her be friends on facebook with other guys, that is just crazy talk. If I told my girlfriend to delete her facebook because a guy kept on requesting an invite she would tell me to **** off, haha.
utterer of lies Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 my friend's boyfriend told her she has to delete her account or he will leave her. She keeps getting friend requests from this same guy, she ignores it then he sends the request again and that made her boyfriend mad. What do you all think of this, is her boyfriend over reacting? He still has his facebook and does not plan on getting rid of it. While he's at it, why not prohibit her from driving a car, force her to wear a burka and prevent her from speaking with men that are not directly related by blood.
phineas Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 Who is the guy? That's really what it comes down to.
grkBoy Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 my friend's boyfriend told her she has to delete her account or he will leave her. She keeps getting friend requests from this same guy, she ignores it then he sends the request again and that made her boyfriend mad. What do you all think of this, is her boyfriend over reacting? He still has his facebook and does not plan on getting rid of it. Tell her to go to her Privacy Settings and put the "stalker" in her block list. From there, she'll literally become nonexistent to the guy on FB. Problem solved.
iris219 Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 my friend's boyfriend told her she has to delete her account or he will leave her. She keeps getting friend requests from this same guy, she ignores it then he sends the request again and that made her boyfriend mad. What do you all think of this, is her boyfriend over reacting? He still has his facebook and does not plan on getting rid of it. How would her BF even know who friend requests her? Does he stand over her while she's on FB? Everyone gets weird friend requests: from strangers, from people we barely know, from people we don't want to be friends with. I don't even give a second thought to these and I don't talk to people about who friend requests me because it's so insignificant. Her BF is beyond over reacting. Is he controlling in other areas of her life?
Author AprilShowers Posted June 27, 2011 Author Posted June 27, 2011 She cheated on her boyfriend with the guy and when they were arguing she told him that he sent her a request. So its not just some random guy, but I don't see why he doesn't just say block him.
Author AprilShowers Posted June 27, 2011 Author Posted June 27, 2011 She caught her boyfriend cheating on her as well with a few girls. Sounds like Jerry Springer I know...
denise_xo Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 While he's at it, why not prohibit her from driving a car, force her to wear a burka and prevent her from speaking with men that are not directly related by blood. In other words, yes, he's over reacting.
iris219 Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 She cheated on her boyfriend with the guy This makes the story different, but your friend's BF chose to forgive her. He can't expect her to delete her FB.
turnera Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 They both sound like selfish, immature people who have no clue what it means to get in a relationship. I'd just stay away from the whole mess.
grkBoy Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 She cheated on her boyfriend with the guy and when they were arguing she told him that he sent her a request. So its not just some random guy, but I don't see why he doesn't just say block him. She caught her boyfriend cheating on her as well with a few girls. Sounds like Jerry Springer I know... I'd probably just back away from this discussion and tell your friends they are screwed up in the head. Their problems go way beyond Facebook and I'm sure they won't last. It's like Sammi and Ronnie in Jersey Shore.
Author AprilShowers Posted July 7, 2011 Author Posted July 7, 2011 Well my friend talked to her bf about this. He told her since the guy she was cheating on him with sent her a friend request he cant trust her on there and he is not changing his mind. If she wants to be with him that is a condition of their relationship. He still has up his facebook and she made a fake page to see what he is doing and he is adding women that she doesn't know but he say he can have his page because he did not have a lady he screwed as a friend or sending him messages or friend requests. Now he wants her to give him her phone records from last month or he is through with her. Seems like every time she challenges him he gets worse. I feel for her.
iJester Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 I feel for her. Don't waste your energy. Instead, feel for someone that's in a situation they can do nothing about. This girl is just a dumb bitch with no spine. I have zero sympathy for her and as far as I'm concerned, you deserve what you allow.
turnera Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 Neither of them is learning anything. Don't feel sorry for her. She did it to herself and suffering consequences is how you learn. Let her.
Author AprilShowers Posted July 7, 2011 Author Posted July 7, 2011 he cheated on her too so why is he acting like this
turnera Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 I know. Which is why she shouldn't be putting up with his crap. They don't belong together. They need to start over with someone new, HOPEFULLY having learned something from cheating!
turnera Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 Oh, misread what you said, didn't realize it was a question. IMO, he's acting like this BECAUSE he cheated; cheaters ALWAYS expect their spouse to be just as bad as them. If I cheat, you must be cheating, too. Get her to dump him. He's worthless.
Author AprilShowers Posted July 7, 2011 Author Posted July 7, 2011 yeah i just let her vent to me as any friend would. he gives her all sorts of conditions but he doesnt let her see his phone, he goes through her phone, her computer, he made her stop posting on message boards and get rid of her facebook. she says she wants him to be her husband, lol.
rafallus Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 If they get married (God forbid!), sure as hell she's gonna get beaten up sooner or later.
Author AprilShowers Posted July 7, 2011 Author Posted July 7, 2011 If they get married (God forbid!), sure as hell she's gonna get beaten up sooner or later. lol she swears he is her soulmate.
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