Surf Rider Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 My ex lied to me so many times i can't count. I'm glad she's gone. Don't care if i ever see her again. As far as im concerned, she's not a friend; she's just another person i pass by. Link to post Share on other sites
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 Hey I remember this stage!!! sounds like you are healing very well Link to post Share on other sites
Author Surf Rider Posted June 27, 2011 Author Share Posted June 27, 2011 Hey I remember this stage!!! sounds like you are healing very well I'm getting there. I take it day by day. Link to post Share on other sites
just_scott Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 hey i'm with ya man once your girl starts lieing to you even just a small ''white lie' then theirs probably other lies that are going on to cover it up IF they would say to ya straight out hey i lied to you her's why and i'm sorry then it's different their showing the respect you and car about you and your feelings . Link to post Share on other sites
radiodarcy Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 Not that I am excusing your Ex's lying... but if want to know why... I suspect I know the reason. She is what 20 years or so years old? Due to her age, her emotional and mental immaturity and very limited life (dating, relationship, break up) experience... 1. She has not clue who she is and what she wants. So if she can't be honest with herself, she is going to have a hard time being honest with you. 2. She thinks that being "nice", giving you false hope and "protecting" (lying and misleading) you from the truth is "better" and "easier" for you. 3. She does not have the courage, strength or know from her own personal experience that "ripping the band-aide off" is always the best approach and method for breaking up with someone. Doesn't change anything... but thought understanding why she might be lying to you could help. this sounds like the guy who dumped me and he's 35! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Surf Rider Posted June 27, 2011 Author Share Posted June 27, 2011 Not that I am excusing your Ex's lying... but if want to know why... I suspect I know the reason. She is what 20 years or so years old? Due to her age, her emotional and mental immaturity and very limited life (dating, relationship, break up) experience... 1. She has not clue who she is and what she wants. So if she can't be honest with herself, she is going to have a hard time being honest with you. 2. She thinks that being "nice", giving you false hope and "protecting" (lying and misleading) you from the truth is "better" and "easier" for you. 3. She does not have the courage, strength or know from her own personal experience that "ripping the band-aide off" is always the best approach and method for breaking up with someone. Doesn't change anything... but thought understanding why she might be lying to you could help. I see what you are saying, but there is NO excuse. If you care for someone, you tell them the truth. I'm not the most mature person, but I would tell the truth even if it hurts at least im honest. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Surf Rider Posted July 3, 2011 Author Share Posted July 3, 2011 hey i'm with ya man once your girl starts lieing to you even just a small ''white lie' then theirs probably other lies that are going on to cover it up IF they would say to ya straight out hey i lied to you her's why and i'm sorry then it's different their showing the respect you and car about you and your feelings . Well she had no respect at all. Over the course of us dating, her 2 ex bf contacted her, and she told them both off. One of her ex's was absolutely crazy cuz he PRIVATELY messaged her through fb and she didn't even tell me about it till 5 days later. Like I said, if you are truly into the person you're dating, you would immediately stop talking to them and tell them off. Just prior to her leaving me, she had told me that she can't just block them. That was a major "red flag" and i just ignored it. Stupid me. I want to be with someone who respects me and does not goes backwards. I think i deserve better than her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Surf Rider Posted August 2, 2011 Author Share Posted August 2, 2011 If I told you guys how she broke up with me, you would think i'm crazy. I know a lot of the people on here have read about awkward break ups, but this one would shock you as it did me. Link to post Share on other sites
coltsfan1 Posted August 2, 2011 Share Posted August 2, 2011 Some of us have been broken up with in terrible ways so it wouldn't shock any of us. Trust me if she walked on your heart at the end it was cause she was hurting as well. But it also means you have to walk away from her, and depending on how she ended it will also depend on if you ever speak to her again. I was gutted to just read my post here. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=219183 I will also give you a piece of advice any mutual friends you share that you are on the fence about, put some space between you and them. Trust me it is the reality of it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Surf Rider Posted August 3, 2011 Author Share Posted August 3, 2011 Some of us have been broken up with in terrible ways so it wouldn't shock any of us. Trust me if she walked on your heart at the end it was cause she was hurting as well. But it also means you have to walk away from her, and depending on how she ended it will also depend on if you ever speak to her again. I was gutted to just read my post here. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=219183 I will also give you a piece of advice any mutual friends you share that you are on the fence about, put some space between you and them. Trust me it is the reality of it. I read it. It sounds crazy but mine is even more odd. Link to post Share on other sites
KathyM Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 My ex lied to me so many times i can't count. I'm glad she's gone. Don't care if i ever see her again. As far as im concerned, she's not a friend; she's just another person i pass by. Life is too short to waste it with liars and phony people. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Surf Rider Posted August 3, 2011 Author Share Posted August 3, 2011 Life is too short to waste it with liars and phony people. You got that right. I want to be with someone who honestly shares there heart, not pretend everything is ok which is exactly what she did. If you care for someone, you tell them the truth even if it hurts. Link to post Share on other sites
TheHurtProcess Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 I noticed that many people seem to lie rather than tell the truth. The excuse is that they didn't want you to be hurt. But in all reality it was for more selfish reasons. It's because they didn't want you to be mad in a case where they knew you would be mad and rightfully so. My ex was the same way. I caught her in so many lies. Here's a good one... I was on the phone with my ex one night and she told me that she was headed to bed, so I said the usual "goodnight" and "goodbye" and so on. Suddenly after I hung up the phone, I got this gut instinct that she wasn't telling me the truth. So, I decided to take a drive past her house. I drove the 30 or so minutes to her place and noticed her car wasn't parked out front where it usually was. So, I headed home and waited for her to contact me. This was at about 3 or 4 am on a Saturday night. I obviously couldn't sleep, so I signed onto AIM and talked with some friends. Suddenly her name lights up and she sends me a message "Hi there. Can't sleep?". Man, did I let her have it. I'm pretty sure I took a good break for at least a week before I talked to her again. She definitely knew why. The mistake was taking her back after that time period had passed. I know that history repeats and boy did it. That was about a year ago. This past year had been filled with so many roller coasters (lying, cheating, betrayal, abandonment, you name it my friends), I should have saw our inevitable demise coming and broke it off with her long ago. But I guess I just didn't want to let all the effort I had put into the relationship go to waste. That and I loved her obviously. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Surf Rider Posted August 3, 2011 Author Share Posted August 3, 2011 This is how the breakup occurred. I'll try to make it short. When we were going on a year together, she stopped having feelings for me. She only saw me as a friend, yet she didn't tell me. She wanted to break up with me. Instead she talked to her mom and her mom did the breaking up for us, not my gf, her mom. Her mom called me and told me her daughter is breaking up with me. Is that not crazy? Link to post Share on other sites
TheHurtProcess Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 This is how the breakup occurred. I'll try to make it short. When we were going on a year together, she stopped having feelings for me. She only saw me as a friend, yet she didn't tell me. She wanted to break up with me. Instead she talked to her mom and her mom did the breaking up for us, not my gf, her mom. Her mom called me and told me her daughter is breaking up with me. Is that not crazy? Damn... I'd be all sorts of pissed if my ex had her mom do the breaking up for her. That's main because her mom is bat s**t crazy, yet I always say that the acorn never falls far from the tree. So, I suppose it really wouldn't matter then. However, her mom has a little more experience being batty, so my ex has a few years to catch up. Her dad isn't too far off himself. Link to post Share on other sites
coltsfan1 Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 Damn... I'd be all sorts of pissed if my ex had her mom do the breaking up for her. That's main because her mom is bat s**t crazy, yet I always say that the acorn never falls far from the tree. So, I suppose it really wouldn't matter then. However, her mom has a little more experience being batty, so my ex has a few years to catch up. Her dad isn't too far off himself. LOL, Hurt are you sure we didn't date the same girl? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Surf Rider Posted August 3, 2011 Author Share Posted August 3, 2011 Damn... I'd be all sorts of pissed if my ex had her mom do the breaking up for her. That's main because her mom is bat s**t crazy, yet I always say that the acorn never falls far from the tree. So, I suppose it really wouldn't matter then. However, her mom has a little more experience being batty, so my ex has a few years to catch up. Her dad isn't too far off himself. It's one thing to go to your parent for advice. It is another thing to have to have your mom break off your relationship. She needs to learn how to do things on her own, otherwise when she has a family someday, she will not know how to handle things. Link to post Share on other sites
TheHurtProcess Posted August 4, 2011 Share Posted August 4, 2011 LOL, Hurt are you sure we didn't date the same girl? Knowing her, I wouldn't doubt it... SL*T!!! Link to post Share on other sites
TheHurtProcess Posted August 4, 2011 Share Posted August 4, 2011 It's one thing to go to your parent for advice. It is another thing to have to have your mom break off your relationship. She needs to learn how to do things on her own, otherwise when she has a family someday, she will not know how to handle things. But that's mommy's little girl. She should never have to lift a finger in her entire life. She's supposed to marry a man who makes enough $$$ to hire an assistant to do everything for her... it's YOU, who is supposed to do everything for her up until then Well, since you can't dump yourself for her (well I'm sure you could, but it wouldn't be very practical), Mommy, daddy, the maid, the nanny, whomever is available at the time, has to step in and take care of the dirty work. Gotta love the kids who are born with a silver spoon up their A*S (or at least the families who pretend they actually have money). GOOD RIDDANCE bud! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Surf Rider Posted August 4, 2011 Author Share Posted August 4, 2011 But that's mommy's little girl. She should never have to lift a finger in her entire life. She's supposed to marry a man who makes enough $$$ to hire an assistant to do everything for her... it's YOU, who is supposed to do everything for her up until then Well, since you can't dump yourself for her (well I'm sure you could, but it wouldn't be very practical), Mommy, daddy, the maid, the nanny, whomever is available at the time, has to step in and take care of the dirty work. Gotta love the kids who are born with a silver spoon up their A*S (or at least the families who pretend they actually have money). GOOD RIDDANCE bud! Yeah. I want to be with someone who can handle a relationship without having to run to their mom for everything in a relationship. That is just ridiculous. Don't get me wrong, there are plenty of times i have gone to my parents for advice, but im 24 now and as a grown man, i make my own decisions, not mom or dad. Link to post Share on other sites
TheHurtProcess Posted August 4, 2011 Share Posted August 4, 2011 Yeah. I want to be with someone who can handle a relationship without having to run to their mom for everything in a relationship. That is just ridiculous. Don't get me wrong, there are plenty of times i have gone to my parents for advice, but im 24 now and as a grown man, i make my own decisions, not mom or dad. Well, going to them for advice is one thing. Having them do everything for you is another. Link to post Share on other sites
coltsfan1 Posted August 4, 2011 Share Posted August 4, 2011 Knowing her, I wouldn't doubt it... SL*T!!! Hurt-I would bet money on it. I call my ex the "skallywag!!!" I bought her an eye patch, a peg leg then told her to walk the plank.... Mature probably not but after what she put me through, I have no pitty!! Surf- Parents are good advisers and will most always have your best interests at heart. But WE have to make our own decisions!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Surf Rider Posted August 5, 2011 Author Share Posted August 5, 2011 Well, going to them for advice is one thing. Having them do everything for you is another. What do you mean by that? Link to post Share on other sites
TheHurtProcess Posted August 5, 2011 Share Posted August 5, 2011 What do you mean by that? You mentioned that there were plenty of times when you've gone to your parent's for advice. That's one thing. If you were to have your parents to everything for you, such as break up with someone or other things that you should be taking care of yourself, that would be just outright ridiculous. That is what I meant Link to post Share on other sites
Author Surf Rider Posted August 5, 2011 Author Share Posted August 5, 2011 You mentioned that there were plenty of times when you've gone to your parent's for advice. That's one thing. If you were to have your parents to everything for you, such as break up with someone or other things that you should be taking care of yourself, that would be just outright ridiculous. That is what I meant Oh ok i got ya. Link to post Share on other sites
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