Cee Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 I had one of those watershed weekends which was a stress test for me and my relationship. On Friday, I was screened for colon cancer, which was important because my Dad died young from it. I was an emotional wreck before the test and feared cancer. I was extra needy and annoyed that my boyfriend was so calm about the test. My BF took me to/from the screening and he was relaxed. I was pretty much in an anxious haze before the test. (The test went well; they cut out a few small polyps). The day after the colonoscopy, my BF was unhappy and stressed. He said that he had a lot of emotions in him and he couldn't relax. He was upset by my test and also stressed that I was meeting his family on Sunday. He was more sarcastic that I had ever seen him. We didn't fight, but there was a grim humor about him I hadn't seen before. I didn't pick at him and rode it out. He relaxed that night while we attended his friend's graduation party. On Saturday night, we were at my place and there was a domestic dispute upstairs. They were yelling and banging at midnight and my boyfriend thought he heard slapping. I called the cops and we sat in the dark talking about our relationship and how we deal with conflict. It was an intimate and tender conversation, in stark contrast to the couple upstairs. On Sunday, I met his family for the first time. He was freaking out about it and I couldn't get him to smile. The baseball game was fun and I got along fine with his family although I think I was weird with his Mom. We all rode public transit so I split off before my BF did. He called me a couple hours later to say that it all went well. And now I am in stunned awe thinking how did I ever get this lucky to have a good relationship. I was such a mess in my youth and now I'm doing things like addressing my mortality and having mature conversations about dealing with anger. This wasn't a weekend of wine and roses, but it was a wonderful experience. TL;DR I've been reading LoveShack this weekend and I feel optimistic for all of us. Love is not something for the beautiful and deserving. It's there for the willing and the patient.
alexlakeman Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 Good luck, hope it turns out well..yes, hard work and both parties have to put 100% into it..
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