wonderin Posted April 20, 2004 Posted April 20, 2004 my boyfriend of six years, five of which we have lived together has been a very nice relationship with one problem on my end. he tends to not tell me things when he is going to do something. how much should he tell me when we have been together for such a long time already? how much do i have a right to know? they are not personal or secretive things just plans that he is making. he takes wednesdays off as his day off, suppose to be for him and i in place of sundays off, instead he is out running his grand mother around, which is fine and i can go with if i would like to but i dont like tobecause all she does is complain and wants to eat. so i end up staying at home alone. that is my day off with him. now he tells me he is going to take off thursdays instead and he did not tell me this but i found out through an email that he check. so i was a little peeved about that. then i found out he made plans on thursday to go play golf with his friend. didn't i deserve to be told that too? or is it okay to just tell someone something the day of or the night before of your plans? how much should he be telling me? please
pav186 Posted April 20, 2004 Posted April 20, 2004 If it bothers you you should probably tell him. personally i tell my gf my plans once theyre made, if anything just so she can do something or make plans for that day or night.
tattoomytoe Posted April 20, 2004 Posted April 20, 2004 well you need to let him know that this bothers you. i do not think it is an unreasonable request, i mean this guy knows when you pee at home....why should you not know when his day off is? what if he was in an accident, or you had to get a hold of him? that is my point for knowing at least if my bf is at work or not. the details are not terribly important, but i want to know a general time to expect or NOt expect him.
yes Posted April 20, 2004 Posted April 20, 2004 has it always been like this? do you spend any time together (alone) at all? -yes
Arabess Posted April 20, 2004 Posted April 20, 2004 1. You could start making plans for yourself so you don't end up just sitting home bored. 2. You could talk to him, pull out a calendar and form up a compromising plan. 3. Go with him sometimes on his 'Grandma' run...then do something together after she is dropped off.
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