lillypad24 Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 Ok, I have a question. If an ex insults you through texts to try to get the last word in and then says never bother them again or else they will charge you with harassment. Could they actually charge you with harassment if you sent them a non-threatening message? Wouldn't the police take into account the immature statements that person said prior to saying not to bother them again? I thought harassment has to be repetitive and threatening? I don't plan on sending an immature message but I need to tell this person something but I don't want to get charged with harassment. It has been almost 2 months since we last spoke. It seems so petty to me.
Geya Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 Ok, I have a question. If an ex insults you through texts to try to get the last word in and then says never bother them again or else they will charge you with harassment. Could they actually charge you with harassment if you sent them a non-threatening message? Wouldn't the police take into account the immature statements that person said prior to saying not to bother them again? I thought harassment has to be repetitive and threatening? I don't plan on sending an immature message but I need to tell this person something but I don't want to get charged with harassment. It has been almost 2 months since we last spoke. It seems so petty to me. I'm not sure but I won't send anyone a message if they threatened to charge me! Who the hell do they think they are? And you shouldn't do either! You know why? Because it's BENEATH you and you are way better than that
Mack05 Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 I'm not sure but I won't send anyone a message if they threatened to charge me! Who the hell do they think they are? And you shouldn't do either! You know why? Because it's BENEATH you and you are way better than that Plus 1. Dude forget them..Leave it go. Move on..
lalalandman Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 I'm guessing he's the one that broke up with you, right?
lalalandman Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 So then his dumb plan backfired and he's now showing his true colors. My friend had a story exactly like yours.
AlisaMarie Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 Ok, I have a question. If an ex insults you through texts to try to get the last word in and then says never bother them again or else they will charge you with harassment. Could they actually charge you with harassment if you sent them a non-threatening message? Wouldn't the police take into account the immature statements that person said prior to saying not to bother them again? I thought harassment has to be repetitive and threatening? I don't plan on sending an immature message but I need to tell this person something but I don't want to get charged with harassment. It has been almost 2 months since we last spoke. It seems so petty to me. What is the nature of your need to speak with this person?
just_scott Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 i think once a person expresses to you don't contact me in anyway EVEN if you send a test,e mail, give a phone call just saying sorry it went like this IF that person is really fed up with you they can file a harraseent charge EVEN if you were polite, non threatening etc .just the fact that they asked you to stop and you didn't right away I think it would be best to cut conact AND if the contact you then you can reply
Mack05 Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 yes that is correct Lilly I am confused this guy wrote you an apologetic letter and now a few days leter is threatening you with the police!? Lol some people are just nuts
Lemontang Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 I wouldn't be surprised based on the history it was to get a rise out of you. Nor would I be surprised that he contacts you in the near future. 2 months is nothing and if he does contact you just ignore it, he'll even likely send you a few more messages if you don't respond...hmm harassment did you say? And if he doesn't contact you at all then all the better, because you'll have moved on anyway.
Author lillypad24 Posted June 27, 2011 Author Posted June 27, 2011 Lilly I am confused this guy wrote you an apologetic letter and now a few days leter is threatening you with the police!? Lol some people are just nuts Nope this is a different guy...haha
wny Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 Ok, I have a question. If an ex insults you through texts to try to get the last word in and then says never bother them again or else they will charge you with harassment. Could they actually charge you with harassment if you sent them a non-threatening message? Wouldn't the police take into account the immature statements that person said prior to saying not to bother them again? I thought harassment has to be repetitive and threatening? I don't plan on sending an immature message but I need to tell this person something but I don't want to get charged with harassment. It has been almost 2 months since we last spoke. It seems so petty to me. It is petty and you have nothing to tell them. Take a deep breath, close your eyes, open them, look to the skies, and then delete every last message. Tell yourself you are liberated from that baggage, and that the fact this person cannot get to you and you have no need to respond to anything makes you great and strong. You will be proud of yourself when you realize you are stronger erasing their messages without response than they are being compelled to send them. If they continue, see if your provider can block messages from specific numbers. If this person threatens physical harm, report it to the police. One visit from them will probably resolve that for good.
Author lillypad24 Posted June 27, 2011 Author Posted June 27, 2011 i think once a person expresses to you don't contact me in anyway EVEN if you send a test,e mail, give a phone call just saying sorry it went like this IF that person is really fed up with you they can file a harraseent charge EVEN if you were polite, non threatening etc .just the fact that they asked you to stop and you didn't right away I think it would be best to cut conact AND if the contact you then you can reply That is not true ,I just got some legal advice. If I send one civil message after no contact of 2 months, they would not be able to charge me since a peace bond or restraining order has not been issued, they would only have grounds to charge me if I sent more messages after that. I don't know if i will send him a message but its nice to know I can't get charged if I send just one...
Mack05 Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 That is not true ,I just got some legal advice. If I send one civil message after no contact of 2 months, they would not be able to charge me since a peace bond or restraining order has not been issued, they would only have grounds to charge me if I sent more messages after that. I don't know if i will send him a message but its nice to know I can't get charged if I send just one... Lilly seriously why would you want anything to do someone who threatens you with the police?This guy can't be all there in the head, if he threatened you with the police, when you haven't been in anyway aggressive or overly communicating with calls/texting etc etc. Delete his number from your phone. Remove all methods of contact (Facebook/MSN/MySpace/Twitter/Email). I know it's frustrating, but just accept he is a coward. Sometimes we don't get the answers we would like, but the reality is he probably was never going to give you the answers you are looking for anyway. I posted this in another thread. It's about reasons we break NC. We sometimes feel our exe's have to hear this one more thing. They don't... "2) I Must have Closure. You may have many questions, but you need to accept that some will never get answered. Even if you have questions that seem to drive you crazy, you must decide that the answers don't matter, probably won't make sense, probably aren't going to satisfy you and are not going to give you any sense of closure. It is your responsibility to accept that you may have to close this chapter without answers, explanations, and without input from someone else. It is not only possible for you to survive without the answers but it's necessary. Staying in the questions, repeating them and ruminating over the possible answers will only keep you stuck. Despite your fervent belief that somehow one final scene with your ex will lead to closure, it will not. You don't need to know what your ex thinks or why your ex did this or that, to move on. If you want closure, you need to do the grief work, intergrate the experience into your life and turn the page. That is how closure happens...FROM WITHIN.. 3) I just need to make sense of it all" and I just have one more thing to say to you before I let go"...You may think that if you can just talk sense into your ex, then everything will be fine. You may have heard illogical or unreasonable explanations that left you stunned and speechless at the time, but now they go round and round in your head and you can think of a thousand rebuttals to them all. As you ruminate on the things your ex said, you come up with reasons your ex is wrong, and then you start to imagine how having a change to talk things out will resolve all the misunderstandings. It becomes your impassioned belief that you can have a conversation and turn the wrongheadedness around. If your ex dumped you and you think it was the wrong thing to do, he or she needs to figure that out. You can't be the one to "fix" your ex's thinking. The bottom line is that if your ex see's things in a cockeyed way now, he or she is going to continue to see things the same way whenever you are not around to correct this twisted prespective. It takes hard work and constant vigilance to keep someone "thinking correctly", and you don't want that kind of responsibility or control. The fact is you need to accept that you have been with someone whose approach to life is simply incompatible to yours. Perhaps it was evident that you thought in different ways, saw the world differently, and operated on irreconcilable differences but you chose to ignore it or worked hard to correct it. You can't ignore dissimilar viewpoints any longer. Accept the fact that you think differently and let it go so you can find someone whose way of thinking is compatible with yours".
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