Clubman35 Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 So why is it that I miss my wife so much (she moved out 2 1/2 wks ago) and look forward to her coming over to see our son (BTW.. in her time away, she's spent a grand total of 2 hours with him, Mom of the Year award pending), but when she gets here, I can't even look at her? We can't even spend 5 minutes together before I just want to rip her head off! My son was in his room playing video games (of course, right?) while I was in the kitchen making dinner... my wife walks in, we talk for a minute, then she grabs my arm as to give me a hug. I asked her to please not touch me. In my twisted head, I can't stand to hug her unless I'm certain that she's still mine. Stupid, right? We talked for a few more minutes, me telling her that I really do miss her, and that I know we've both said things to hurt each other and that I just want her back home, which she quickly turns into, "you just want me home for my money!". WTF? That's not what I said. It's like she's looking for an argument or a reason to get the hell outta here as quickly as possible. Why do I even bother with her?
doublerince Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 Clubman, how did she get that from what you said? There is some serious miscommunication here, and she is inferring the wrong things from what she hears. It sounds like things are really raw and new right now. I am separated right now also, for about 6 weeks. It has gotten a little better when we see each other to deal with transferring our kids, but within minutes I still want to rip his head off. I think it will take quite some time, but peace will come. I hope you are doing okay.
Author Clubman35 Posted June 27, 2011 Author Posted June 27, 2011 Thanks for the reply, doublerince. I'm not sure how she came to that conclusion. She did leave us (my son & I) with no money, and a mortgage that is 7K behind. I was recently laid off from my job of 22 years, so maybe she's feeling kinda' guilty. She tells me how broke she is while holding her pack of cigarettes.... meanwhile, she's contributed ZERO to feeding our son, or paying OUR bills & mortgage. I think she feels like if she no longer lives in this actual house, then she no longer has an obligation. She told me that she wanted to drop off some money so I could pickup some things for our son, but I told her to just get those things and drop them off. I have not asked her for a dime. Then last night, while she was at work (she has a lot of down time at work), she sends me a couple of text saying that she's sorry to argue with me, and that it makes her sad to see me upset.... what the hell is that?!? I seriously think that she may be bipolar or something, and I don't mean that as some sort of dig at her. We are supposed to start counseling soon, and I hope the counselor picks up on it.....
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