grkBoy Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 From my experience, pretend. Imagine that you've had a relationship before. Then, if a girl asks you if you've been in a relationship before, lie and say you have. If you've had female friends, they were past girlfriends. Even say you slept with a couple of them. If she asks you why you're so nervous, say it's because she's so beautiful that she makes you nervous. If she asks you if you seem inexperienced, tell her that it's been a few years since you've had sex, and that you're rusty. NEVER (NEVER EVER!) tell a girl the truth about your inexperience! This is vastly important! Every single female here will counter my advice, and say that I'm full of crap and that you should tell her...this is a death sentence! It gives EVERY SINGLE GIRL the chance to reject you, just because you weren't good enough for another girl. Get that through your head. Make up a story, lie about it, and pretend you're experienced. Then when you lose your virginity, and get into a relationship, you don't have to lie anymore. Yeah, I know many would say "DON'T EVER LIE!" but I have to agree here. If women are going to hold small things like this over one's head, then it only drives men to lie. Let's look at dating sites. Women want guys with bigger income, so men lie about their income. Women want men with a full head of hair, so men post old photos. Women want men who have been in a RL at least 3 years, so men lie. We can say the perpetual lies are the problem, but I think it's more when women and men get so judgmental on things. In the past it might have been easier to assume a guy who's never been in a LTR is simply a playa or flake, but now I see it here and elsewhere that many guys simply start dating later in life or have so much bad luck in dating that they hit older ages and thus have less experience. I say the same to women, if you seem to be stuck between guys who have less experience VS guys who have too much experience, go with the less experience. Lord knows I don't hear much about the less experienced guys cheating.
Dorie Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 From my experience, pretend. Imagine that you've had a relationship before. Then, if a girl asks you if you've been in a relationship before, lie and say you have. If you've had female friends, they were past girlfriends. Even say you slept with a couple of them. If she asks you why you're so nervous, say it's because she's so beautiful that she makes you nervous. If she asks you if you seem inexperienced, tell her that it's been a few years since you've had sex, and that you're rusty. NEVER (NEVER EVER!) tell a girl the truth about your inexperience! This is vastly important! Every single female here will counter my advice, and say that I'm full of crap and that you should tell her...this is a death sentence! It gives EVERY SINGLE GIRL the chance to reject you, just because you weren't good enough for another girl. Get that through your head. Make up a story, lie about it, and pretend you're experienced. Then when you lose your virginity, and get into a relationship, you don't have to lie anymore. You should hope you don't wind up in a relationship with the person you lied to. Lies don't make good foundations. ... I've come to learn there are so many different paths in life, I can't measure people by the direction theirs may have taken them. ... What a nice perspective.
vsmini Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 From my experience, pretend. Imagine that you've had a relationship before. Then, if a girl asks you if you've been in a relationship before, lie and say you have. If you've had female friends, they were past girlfriends. Even say you slept with a couple of them. If she asks you why you're so nervous, say it's because she's so beautiful that she makes you nervous. If she asks you if you seem inexperienced, tell her that it's been a few years since you've had sex, and that you're rusty. NEVER (NEVER EVER!) tell a girl the truth about your inexperience! This is vastly important! Every single female here will counter my advice, and say that I'm full of crap and that you should tell her...this is a death sentence! It gives EVERY SINGLE GIRL the chance to reject you, just because you weren't good enough for another girl. Get that through your head. Make up a story, lie about it, and pretend you're experienced. Then when you lose your virginity, and get into a relationship, you don't have to lie anymore. It's true that it might scare girls off. For me - I'd just say 'oh boy' and hope for the best but I would be hesitant. I wouldn't bail right off the bat though. So that being said - yes - it most likely will put you at a disadvantage. Also putting you at a disadvantage is that you're lying to someone right off the bat - not a good habit to get into. Especially if the person you think you're just "casually" lying to ends up being something significant in your life. Up to you.
grkBoy Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 Frankly, how long I've been in a RL is none of her damn business. She can ask about my past if she's wondering if I have an STD or something, but who I dated and for how long is honestly none of her business. Just like her past is none of my business. The past should only become "the other person's business" when it really affects the present. So the man or woman has a kid or two, and some psycho drama queen of an ex...then you have to bring it all out there. He/she has a disease or illness that will make for big problems down the road, that has to come out. I think it's getting ridiculous the vast amount of "prior information" people are demanding out of one another in order to find someone "worthy". Why it's ridiculous is because any playa or scumbag could EASILY lie about it all and fool someone. So can the more honest "good guy". Lord knows women can easily lie about a lot and get away with it too. So if you know you probably won't ever get the honest truth, why ask? Does it matter that much that you know how long someone was in a past RL if it honestly has no factors (kids, past marriage, drama, illness, finances) that would cause a bearing on the here and now? How do single moms like it when guys instantly assume they were just party girls spreading their legs for every scumbag out there? Now they have to convince guys they got married and then got divorced. How about if guys then assume she's a backstabbing b!tch who wants to take men to the cleaners? Not nice when someone makes assumptions isn't it? So don't assume just because a guy never had a solid RL that lasted for years that it means he's a playa or weirdo. Look around and ask "how's that thinking working out for me?" when you lament how there's no one "decent" out there.
rafallus Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 There is no reason to admit it. If you do a good job, she won't care and by admitting you risk spoiling the mood. If you don't do so well, she can probably tell anyway.
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