Jagger341 Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 Last night, I posted a question asking if you would date someone with Autism (low or high functioning), now I ask would you date someone who's never been in a relationship? I only ask because I've never been in a real relationship before.
TheLawmaker Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 From my experience, pretend. Imagine that you've had a relationship before. Then, if a girl asks you if you've been in a relationship before, lie and say you have. If you've had female friends, they were past girlfriends. Even say you slept with a couple of them. If she asks you why you're so nervous, say it's because she's so beautiful that she makes you nervous. If she asks you if you seem inexperienced, tell her that it's been a few years since you've had sex, and that you're rusty. NEVER (NEVER EVER!) tell a girl the truth about your inexperience! This is vastly important! Every single female here will counter my advice, and say that I'm full of crap and that you should tell her...this is a death sentence! It gives EVERY SINGLE GIRL the chance to reject you, just because you weren't good enough for another girl. Get that through your head. Make up a story, lie about it, and pretend you're experienced. Then when you lose your virginity, and get into a relationship, you don't have to lie anymore. 1
Rinas Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 I would. I honestly have no issues being someones first. I feel that they come with less baggage too, so why would I complain?
TheLawmaker Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 I would. I honestly have no issues being someones first. I feel that they come with less baggage too, so why would I complain? OP, this is a lie. Remember that.
Rinas Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 OP, this is a lie. Remember that. Wrong. My boyfriend had no previous girlfriends before me. I was his first. Id have no problems doing it all over again, if I were to be single again. You just need to find the right woman.
TheLawmaker Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 Wrong. My boyfriend had no previous girlfriends before me. I was his first. Id have no problems doing it all over again, if I were to be single again. You just need to find the right woman. How old are you? Because once a girl finds a guy 25 years or older, who's still a virgin, she automatically places the "creeper" label on him. He could be Brad Pitt for all she cares. If he's sexually inexperienced, he's a creeper.
Queen Zenobia Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 How old are you? Because once a girl finds a guy 25 years or older, who's still a virgin, she automatically places the "creeper" label on him. He could be Brad Pitt for all she cares. If he's sexually inexperienced, he's a creeper. This issue came up in several other threads. I personally do think it's a little odd to be inexperienced at 25 and it would cause me to scratch my head. However, I am engaged to a man who was inexperienced when we met, so I would never make inexperience a deal breaker, nor would anyone worth your time.
TheLawmaker Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 Personally, I'd find a girl with a lot of sexual experience to be questionable as well. Like more than 5 partners.
Rinas Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 How old are you? Because once a girl finds a guy 25 years or older, who's still a virgin, she automatically places the "creeper" label on him. He could be Brad Pitt for all she cares. If he's sexually inexperienced, he's a creeper. Boyfriend was of legal age when I met him. Honestly, id be thrilled to find a guy at 25 with less relationship history. Id have no past women to worry about.
Author Jagger341 Posted June 26, 2011 Author Posted June 26, 2011 I'm actually 19 years old, but I really want to be in a relationship.
TheLawmaker Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 Boyfriend was of legal age when I met him. Honestly, id be thrilled to find a guy at 25 with less relationship history. Id have no past women to worry about. I am almost 29, and believe me, it's no picnic. My whole family thinks I'm gay; I have to put up with a lot of gay jokes. My male cousin is afraid to bend over in front of me, in case I check out his ass (it's more humiliating than funny, personally.) Chalk that along with hearing about sex and love every. single. freaking day, and realizing that, as a nerd, I am not romantically and sexually appealing to the majority of women. And the women who I would be sexually and romantically attractive to probably live in another country... Believe me, it's no picnic. Women are much too picky today. You have to be a freakin' pickup artist, have suave, charisma, money, big muscles, great social skills, and a great job and apartment...and that's just for starters. I don't fit into the current dating scene.
TheLawmaker Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 I'm actually 19 years old, but I really want to be in a relationship. You are well off then. Plenty of females would dig a 19 year old virgin guy, you don't have a problem. Rolling Stones fan? I like them, too, but like The Beatles more.
cerridwen Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 This issue came up in several other threads. I personally do think it's a little odd to be inexperienced at 25 and it would cause me to scratch my head. However, I am engaged to a man who was inexperienced when we met, so I would never make inexperience a deal breaker, nor would anyone worth your time. Mmm. I've come to learn there are so many different paths in life, I can't measure people by the direction theirs may have taken them. It's nice to hear you didn't hold inexperience against your fiance, and that you found one another.
Queen Zenobia Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 I am almost 29, and believe me, it's no picnic. My whole family thinks I'm gay; I have to put up with a lot of gay jokes. My male cousin is afraid to bend over in front of me, in case I check out his ass (it's more humiliating than funny, personally.) Chalk that along with hearing about sex and love every. single. freaking day, and realizing that, as a nerd, I am not romantically and sexually appealing to the majority of women. And the women who I would be sexually and romantically attractive to probably live in another country... Believe me, it's no picnic. Women are much too picky today. You have to be a freakin' pickup artist, have suave, charisma, money, big muscles, great social skills, and a great job and apartment...and that's just for starters. I don't fit into the current dating scene. In what ways are you a nerd? My fiance did not meet me at a bar or anything like that. We met in class and he invited me to a panel discussion on developmental economics that was taking place on campus, the rest as they say, is history. Perhaps you could try something similar?
Rinas Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 Chalk that along with hearing about sex and love every. single. freaking day, and realizing that, as a nerd, I am not romantically and sexually appealing to the majority of women. And the women who I would be sexually and romantically attractive to probably live in another country... Believe me, it's no picnic. Women are much too picky today. You have to be a freakin' pickup artist, have suave, charisma, money, big muscles, great social skills, and a great job and apartment...and that's just for starters. I don't fit into the current dating scene. The right woman won't care about lack of experience. She would be more than happy to be your first. The only issue here is the fact that you are letting your lack of experience ruin potential relationships. You are insecure about this, and it can show through. It's not worth worrying over. I also doubt it's your looks, confidence is key. When I met my boyfriend everyone thought that he was "nerdy" and unappealing, people wondered why I had interest in him. He sometimes felt the same way and to this day thinks I'm too good for him. I always ensure him otherwise. I'll also add that when I met him he was broke, he isn't Mr muscular (but I love his body), and he didn't have great social skills, he is an introvert. Men are just as picky as women, I'm not everyone's cup of tea either. You just have to find a good match.
Knittress Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 If I could TELL that the guy had no experience from his behavior, then I wouldn't be interested. This isn't a value judgement so much as the fact that I'm just plain TIRED of training men and I feel like I've put in my time. I want someone who understands the ropes, the potential pitfalls, and has good communication skills. (I like nerds. Nerd women like nerd men - hey, easy!)
TheLawmaker Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 In what ways are you a nerd? My fiance did not meet me at a bar or anything like that. We met in class and he invited me to a panel discussion on developmental economics that was taking place on campus, the rest as they say, is history. Perhaps you could try something similar? I am a nerd because: I wear glassesI am unathletic/overweightI hate sports and prefer booksI like progressive rock, sci fi, and fantasyI love doing math and writing, and did I mention I hate sports (playing or watching them?)I have a "nerdy voice", soft features, and look young.
TheLawmaker Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 Oh, and I love Harry Potter! I am obsessed with the series, I've read the books at least 40 times, and seen all the movies at least 20 times. I also own the whole series (books and movies) on DVD, and post to a HP forum.
Rinas Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 I am a nerd because: I wear glassesI am unathletic/overweightI hate sports and prefer booksI like progressive rock, sci fi, and fantasyI love doing math and writing, and did I mention I hate sports (playing or watching them?)I have a "nerdy voice", soft features, and look young. 1. Not an issue. I find glasses on men rather appealing. 2. If you're unhappy with your figure, you can do something about it. (Not an issue to many women) 3. I don't like sports either, I'm also a book fan - not an issue. 4. Again, sounds good to me. 5. Nothing wrong with this. 6. Soft features are very appealing. When is it negative to look younger? Also, no shame in liking Harry Potter.
Knittress Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 Though sometimes it's worth it to take a long hard look at yourself and realize that maybe you're holding yourself back... Saying it 'cause I've been there.
Queen Zenobia Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 1. Not an issue. I find glasses on men rather appealing. 2. If you're unhappy with your figure, you can do something about it. (Not an issue to many women) 3. I don't like sports either, I'm also a book fan - not an issue. 4. Again, sounds good to me. 5. Nothing wrong with this. 6. Soft features are very appealing. When is it negative to look younger? Also, no shame in liking Harry Potter. Pretty much what I was going to write, except that I do like sports. Plenty of women don't though as demonstrated here.
alethean Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 1. Not an issue. I find glasses on men rather appealing. 2. If you're unhappy with your figure, you can do something about it. (Not an issue to many women) 3. I don't like sports either, I'm also a book fan - not an issue. 4. Again, sounds good to me. 5. Nothing wrong with this. 6. Soft features are very appealing. When is it negative to look younger? Also, no shame in liking Harry Potter. +1 billion Also, Harry Potter rules!! Books, movies, and I read fanfiction sometimes.
make me believe Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 I don't think anybody expects a 19 year old to be very experienced -- not everybody dates in high school. I never did. I would be more concerned about a 19 year old who had a ton of experience/past relationships than one who was a virgin/had no previous girlfriends. If a girl questions you, you could always say you've dated a bit but never had a serious relationship, or just say you haven't found anybody yet that was worth being in a relationship with. But seriously, don't worry about your lack of experience.
Ross MwcFan Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 I am almost 29, and believe me, it's no picnic. My whole family thinks I'm gay; I have to put up with a lot of gay jokes. My male cousin is afraid to bend over in front of me, in case I check out his ass (it's more humiliating than funny, personally.) Chalk that along with hearing about sex and love every. single. freaking day, and realizing that, as a nerd, I am not romantically and sexually appealing to the majority of women. And the women who I would be sexually and romantically attractive to probably live in another country... Believe me, it's no picnic. Women are much too picky today. You have to be a freakin' pickup artist, have suave, charisma, money, big muscles, great social skills, and a great job and apartment...and that's just for starters. I don't fit into the current dating scene. Most guys don't have all those characteristics, yet they still have relationships. Most people don't have to be anything, other then just themselves and eventually they find someone, and they both match each other really well. There's a lid for evey pot as they say. If you can't get a woman it's for some other reason than not having big muscles, charisma, etc.
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