bml929 Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 Is there a difference between friends with benefits and having a relationship? My definition of a friend is someone you enjoy spending time with, talking to, hanging out with, someone you can call when you need help or advice, etc. Basically you have developed a platonic relationship with this person then at some point you may add the benefits of having sex with this person. How is this different from a romantic relationship? A romantic relationship basically starts out the same way: meet, hang out, get to know the person, become sexually involved. Just curious what you guys think.
Rinas Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 Commitment vs non commitment. Whilst in a fwb you don't have to be exclusive with one person, you're free to see others without problems of jealousy/infidelity.
Dust Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 I think you can have a relationship and say lets not put a name on this but lets be exclusive. I think you can be bf/gf and just have it be a fun thing that isn’t necessarily leading to an engagement and marriage. I think friends with benefits can mean a lot of things. To me what it means is one person or both specifically want to avoid the label of bf/gf and that it could develop into something more. Further it implies it’s a kind of place holder relationship until something better comes along.
Knittress Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 I like the IDEA of fwb, and of endless free love orgies, etc... But I think what it often comes down to is getting off with someone who you don't think is worth your nonsexual affection. Not very friendly, really...
Cee Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 I agree with Knittress. Fwb sounds good on paper. But basically it's a disposable relationship. People will get tossed aside when something better comes along. I don't feel flattered when someone thinks I'm tolerable to f*ck, but not their type when it comes to a relationship.
mogul Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 Like what other posters have said, a fwb is someone you enjoy spending time with but they have certain flaws that prevent you from wanting to be in a relationship with them. No title, no commitment(although someone is going to get attached), no headaches.
proactivedreamer Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 Although I do agree with some of things said in the above postings, I do not agree that people form these types of relationships because they are ultimately looking for something better. I comment a great deal on the topic of FWBs because I know, right now, I cannot deal with the heavily emotional aspect of a committed relationship, and going down the FWB avenue seems like an honest way to get my needs met without the complications of commitment. I like to be honest with myself about what I can handle in my life, and I am a bit turned off by commitment at this point in my life. Believe me, deep down inside I would love to have someone special in my life, but at this point, single-hood is the best option. My life gets messy when I put my heart and soul into a committed relationship. I am learning that I need to avoid relationships with the element of commitment because I give myself over and I often get hurt. That's my two cents...
Author bml929 Posted June 27, 2011 Author Posted June 27, 2011 I dated this girl for more than 2 months now that I met online and she claim that we are FWD. I know that she is afraid of all the pressure of being in a commitment relationship. Will a woman sleep with me, spend a getaway weekend together, introducing to her friends, compliment me, cooking meal for me, grabbing my hand in public, kiss me in public and ask me about what kind of house I would like to buy in the future and number of kids i want? I have a feeling that she doesnt want to feel pressure with our actual relationship and eventually to have a serious relationship. So what you guys think
rafallus Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 I dated this girl for more than 2 months now that I met online and she claim that we are FWD. I know that she is afraid of all the pressure of being in a commitment relationship. Will a woman sleep with me, spend a getaway weekend together, introducing to her friends, compliment me, cooking meal for me, grabbing my hand in public, kiss me in public and ask me about what kind of house I would like to buy in the future and number of kids i want? I have a feeling that she doesnt want to feel pressure with our actual relationship and eventually to have a serious relationship. So what you guys think Actions speak louder than words. If she acts like you are in a relationship, without calling it that way, it's safe to assume you are in a relationship.
smudge21 Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 I think it's all down to emotions. If you can see each other without emotions being involved then that's a FWB deal, but I'm yet to meet anyone in that situation where one member of the party hasn't had feelings for the other. And in turn that has lead to some heart break when one of them meets someone new and the FWB deal is over. I can see a benefit to having FWB, but it's a lot harder then people think to maintain something like that.
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