lovesic Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 So, ended a 3 year relationship about 4 months ago, we have a child, very messy seperation, while i was seperating i unexpectidly met the love of my life randomly. She is 4 years older than me and a student, we hit it off right away and quckly became very close. There is legal issues with my ex and i that affect me daily and put lots of stress on our new relationship. My ex is a very spiteful and mean person and has been making my life hell since i decided to leave her. Now my new gf and i have been so good for eachother, so i thought. I went up and visited her last weekend as she has moved back to the city for summer and is living with her parents. She has not been happy and ive noticed a change in her moods, she cried alot and was very unhappy and withdrawn on skype and txts. So ive been feeling emotionally drained trying to help her work through her issues not knowing that she feels that the last month things havent been right for her with our relationship. She says that she cant handle a relationship right now and that she needs alone time and needs to work on making herself happy before she can be with anyone. She told me she cant play step mom to my son( ive never asked her to do any of that). She also says that im not over my ex gf and that im a great guy and treated her better than she has ever been treated but we are at different parts in our lives. I was devistated and still am hurting very badly. I put so much time and energy into that relationship. I mean ya there is lots of stress from my court **** with my ex and i am planning on changing careers as well, but ive never been as happy with anyone before and i love her so ****ing much! Im so feeling worthless right now, like i gave her everything and it was only 4 months but it was the best 4 months of my life. Im at rock bottom right now and have deleted her number and im off of facebook now, but i just want to call her and beg her to reconsider, i know we can work things out because im willing to, i just feel like all my effort and love that i gave her wasnt good enough and that i have nothing to offer anyone. Granted i went from a horribly toxic relationship that i for sure have serious baggage from to the best thing ive ever experienced but ****. Like bad timming or not , its so unfair and im really not coping well with this loss at all.
stray Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 Lol, you left your wife and child for this drama? Good luck, man.
Author lovesic Posted June 26, 2011 Author Posted June 26, 2011 ya , i left my ex cuz we were terrible for eachother that was gonna happen anyway, i met my gf in the process.
usabup Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 ya , i left my ex cuz we were terrible for eachother that was gonna happen anyway, i met my gf in the process. I think what is happening here is you are grieving the loss of both relationships at once. I'm not doubting that you loved this women and I'm not suggesting she was a rebound, although you may work out in a few months time that she was. But the truth is, now you are alone for the first time in 3 and a half years and that makes it twice as bad! I'm not saying you still have feelings for your ex, but after you seperated you never got a chance to be single so you didn't go through the correct grieving process. If you manage to get back with your ex, great. If not, then feel the pain this time, it will make everything a lot easier for you in future.
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