voels Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 After 250 days of NC, today someone told me she has a new bf. He's someone from her workplace, in which I helped her to join. He's one of the guy I suspected she had something going on with. I feel terrible. I'm still single and lonely. It's very cruel. I feel, bad. Sigh.
loverboy1984 Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 Hey buddy I feel ya. My ex of 6yrs is now dating a guy she cheated on me with during the relationship and they are both coming out of a relationship. Its sucks to see your ex moved on so quick but know that its just a rebound. I dont know if mine or yours will ever come back but dont sit around waiting. Believe it or not Im not jealous or upset that she is with someone, im more upset that I was dumped like nothing with no explanation, which makes me question everything we had. The best way to cope with this is to think logicaly because thats a gift you have and your ex doesnt. Just know that its a rebound and compared to what you had its meaningless. Also know how good of a person you were and all the good you did for them. That new person they are with has big shoes to fill and so far they are only entertaining your ex superficially by looks, novelty, and stupid little things. It takes a while to build substance in a relationship. Have confidence in who you were in the relationship and it should help you cope with dealing with the thought of your ex with someone else. Its really sad that someone can move on so quick to another relationship. It shows they are dependant and cannot deal with their own problems. I feel sorry for my ex. You should never need someone. Some people need to be in a relationship and maybe your ex is that type of person. Just have confidence in yourself, remember how good you were to your ex, and acknowledge your faults so you can look forward to being a better person in your next relationship. Dont make the same mistake as them and rush into one right now. Dont be jealous, if anything feel sorry for them. wish you all the best
Author voels Posted June 26, 2011 Author Posted June 26, 2011 Thank you loverboy1984, that's very helpful and knock some senses. Thanks. "im more upset that I was dumped like nothing with no explanation, which makes me question everything we had." Exactly!
Mnesic Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 After 250 days of NC, today someone told me she has a new bf. He's someone from her workplace, in which I helped her to join. He's one of the guy I suspected she had something going on with. I feel terrible. I'm still single and lonely. It's very cruel. I feel, bad. Sigh. Like you posted on my thread, our situations are very similar. I just got off the phone with my ex and she had told me she is dating the guy I suspected.. I'm also trying to cope with this. I know how you feel man..
radiodarcy Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 i'm right there with you. while i don't know for certain if my ex is dating someone else. i'm almost sure he has as he wasted no time whatsoever creating profiles on several dating websites; not to mention he's incredibly charismatic; knows how to take great pictures and lives in an area where the ratio of women to men it 8 to one. so yeah - - i'm pretty sure he's moved on by now. whereas i, after close to four months of NC have yet to find anyone *sigh* it's times like this when i'm grateful that we don't have too many mutual friends and the ones that we do have - - i haven't really kept in touch with anyway. at the same time, i try to remind myself that this isn't a race. i'd rather focus on my own interests and what makes me happy than feel as though i have to find someone to be a relationship just because the ex is. if anything, getting into another relationship is only going to make me miss him more.
Sugarkane Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 Thank you loverboy1984, that's very helpful and knock some senses. Thanks. "im more upset that I was dumped like nothing with no explanation, which makes me question everything we had." Exactly! I'm pretty sure these dumpers are sociopaths.
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