OliveOyl Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 I don't care about your opinions about how i view interracial dating. I'm here to ask people for their opinions about my current situation. If my "race issue" is going to interfere with your judgement I suggest you don't respond and leave it at that. It's just that... you dated a woman who had sex with you 5 minutes after you met her off of craigslist... yet you call interracial sex "disgusting"....
ecm Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 Thank you homebrew and oliveoyl for saving me the time it would have taken me to write almost the exact thoughts that were in my head! Seriously, reading that was almost like an M. Night Shamalan movie. I was thinking "wow, he fell in love with a girl who he sexed up in 5 mintues and now can't get over that she is a liar and a slore". Then you threw in the big (no pun intended....maybe) plot twist: the black man. So, just to be clear: you find someone online, kind of try to use it against her- when you were there too. You fall in love, she lies about an abortion, let's you pay for it, let's you believe it's YOUR baby you're losing (which to me is the worst part of the whole story), and you want to focus on the color of one of the probably 75 people she's been with? I believe you're not trying to be a racist. I think someone who is racist wouldn't have tried to explain themselves kie you did. It's maybe not nice, but at least you were honest. I don't really thing the black guy is the issue. I think you're looking for something that won't make you look like such a chooch for staying with her. It's hard to cut ties with someone you love. I suggest you do it. How many times does she have to show you her true color? hahaha- again, no pun intended.
lacoqueta Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 She paid me back right away. She even told me she was so scared she didn't know what to do and obviously regrets everything. My question to you is this. Would you still do a black man given everything you have been told. Well i'm glad she at least paid you back the money. To answer your question, I've never been with a black guy but it's not out of the question. If things didn't work out, I wouldn't expect my next bf to want to know every single detail about my past sex life. I mean, would you be ok telling a new gf that you slept with a girl from off of craigslist within the first 5 mins of meeting her?? Everyone has a past and if things don't work out with your current gf then she will be part of your past and some other girl might not like that. If you love her, then don't be so hard on her!
Eddie Edirol Posted June 27, 2011 Posted June 27, 2011 You must be black. Either that or your to ignorant to understand everything I just said. This woman genuinely loves me. You cannot fake that. You can be in denial all you want, but it only hurts you. If she can fake you out with 26 guys and kep you coming back for more, she can fake loving you now. You want to believe it, so you will. You dont think youre ignorant for worrying about the race of men she sleeps with? How about your ignorant for staying with her after she did all this to you? And how bout the ignorance for blaming the entire gender of women for her ****ty ways? You clearly are the MOST ignorant of all. Just because you dont know how to walk away, or just because you dont know how to tell when one woman fools you, doesnt mean you should walk away from dating forever. Its called "learning". You take what she did, and if you see it happen again, you walk away. In fact, you dont get attached to anyone until they prove themselves to you. You cant be mad at the whole gender because you didnt know what you were doing. You wont understand how youre really supposed to be treated now, until you date another woman who does it the right way. Your woman is preparing to upgrade from you. get out now.
sigurpol Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 I won't get into the race argument, since it has nothing to do with what you're asking.. even though I just kinda did, haha. Should I still stay with her? That's up to you, man. 90 percent of the time, I read posts on here and people do what they want to regardless of the advice they receive. If you're asking what I would do, I would walk away from this. Why? Because I don't know of a lot of relationships built on frustration, lies, abortions, and drama that last very long. You would be happier with a clean slate and with someone who you can trust. Is there anything I can do to forget about the pain? Sure. For one, stop asking loaded questions. Each time you've done so, you've gotten a crappy answer that only makes you sick. Learn from that. But, keep busy. I know that's such a general statement, but really... go running, go for a walk, read, TV, movies, comics, video games, cooking.. anything. Someone mentioned therapy? Do that. Not implying that you're unstable, but it can help. I believe I'm crazy for loving her. Is that true? We all do crazy things when we're wrapped up in this sort of thing. I wouldn't say you're crazy.. but you're definitely emotionally driven. Is this the craziest story you've ever heard about a relationship? I'm not sure why you're asking this, haha. I wouldn't be proud if this happened to me. But, it's filled with twists and turns for sure. I've heard crazier. Should I write a book about all this? Again.. don't know why you're asking this. But, sure, go for it. Maybe that'll keep you busy enough? Perhaps it could be therapeutic for you.
mr.dream merchant Posted June 28, 2011 Posted June 28, 2011 Tri-racial here, and one of them being black. If the woman I'm talking to isn't of black descent and has a thing for Black men, it becomes hard for me to take her serious, and nine times out of ten she doesn't make the cut. That being said, I am attracted to black women. *Shrugs* Who knows...
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