Alexandré Posted April 20, 2004 Posted April 20, 2004 OK a few months ago this girl I liked was dumped by her boyfriend of one month, and we went on a date. Well on this date she got very handsy and I learned that shes really pretty hypersexual. Well a few days after that date, she sent me a note saying she was sorry to lead me on, but that she really wasnt ready to date someone else, and I respected this. Well apparently she liked this guy more than she let on because I've heard from this ex boyfriend and the grapevine what shes done; obsessive love letters, suicidal letters and possibly a suicide attempt. Well after a few months she called me this last Thursday and told me that shes gotten over the other guy completely, that shes been thinking about me alot, and that she wants to give things another try. Unfortunatly I told her I was interested in trying again as well before I really thought about it. What should I do?
Papillon Posted April 20, 2004 Posted April 20, 2004 Just focus on being friends. If you make that intention clear, i.e "Let's take it slowly, OK", she'll appreciate your honesty, and you will have more time to make up your mind. The whole thing just sound like typical teenage childishness.
Arabess Posted April 20, 2004 Posted April 20, 2004 I suspect she is more into emotional manipulation than suicide. You could even be another 'ploy' of hers in trying to make this other guy jealous. I think I would avoid the whole thing. Why start up something with someone who is so full of drama??
Tony T Posted April 20, 2004 Posted April 20, 2004 This lady is pretty unbalanced. Why would you give her a chance to jerk you around again unless you're just wanting to use her for what you may have heard around town that she offers?
bluechocolate Posted April 20, 2004 Posted April 20, 2004 Originally posted by Arabess I suspect she is more into emotional manipulation than suicide. You could even be another 'ploy' of hers in trying to make this other guy jealous. I think I would avoid the whole thing. Why start up something with someone who is so full of drama?? ditto
Author Alexandré Posted April 20, 2004 Author Posted April 20, 2004 unless you're just wanting to use her for what you may have heard around town that she offers? well if that were the case which its not, I would not work with rumors, she told me straight out what she wanted to do to me...
tattoomytoe Posted April 20, 2004 Posted April 20, 2004 Originally posted by Alexandré well if that were the case which its not, I would not work with rumors, she told me straight out what she wanted to do to me... That is exactly how the Black Widow attracts her prey!
Author Alexandré Posted April 21, 2004 Author Posted April 21, 2004 whoa, you couldnt have picked creepier words...
AtomicOrphan Posted April 22, 2004 Posted April 22, 2004 This is familiar terrain for me. I had a relationship with a young woman who had bipolar disorder. She wanted me to commit to her, but I wasn't ready. When I broke up with her, she went on a self-destructive jag. Everything she did in the months after we split was dead opposite of her personality--the shy, prudish Catholic girl. She left me no choice but to rescue her from a situation involving a rapist, a stalker, a dirty old man, and an escort agency. I was traumatized by the ordeal. I could tell she was trying to wreak revenge on me by hurting herself and wrecking her own life. My ex was an EXTREME example of what you may be seeing. Someone who threatens an ex with suicide is obviously manipulative. However, this doesn't necessarily mean the person is malicious. She's more likely to be depressed, angry, and hurting. I caution to watch for extreme moods and irrational behavior. These are signs of bipolarity, and you cannot afford to get mixed up in that. Everybody needs to be loved, but sometimes it's too dangerous. I lost track of my bipolar ex for ten years. I tried track her down last year, only to find she had committed suicide three months earlier. Authorities are pretty sure she jumped from a ferry boat en route to Seattle from Victoria. She was on her way back from visiting her boyfriend.
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