confusedgirl85 Posted June 26, 2011 Share Posted June 26, 2011 So a friend introduced me to this guy at a bar. So the 3 of us had a great night talking and drinking, at the end of the night we exchanged our BB pin and started chatting. A week later (friday) we agreed on going out, he didnt let me know where or what we were going to do. So he picked me up and we ended at a surprise party for his cousin. It was awkward at first but at the end we had fun. Of course there were few silent moments but i thought we hit it off. Saturday we saw each other again because our mutual friend was celebrating her birthday. He was there for about 5 minutes then left, at the end of the night he texted me if there was an afterparty, i said no and he told me that was just an excuse to see me, so sunday night we went to the movies with his cousin and his girlfriend. After that we chat every now and then, but its like there's no interest from him. I've been starting more conversations and he replies but its plain and simple. I really liked the guy and Im just dying to know if he likes me or not, so I can move on or go for it. What should i do, please help. Link to post Share on other sites
DreamerGirl27 Posted June 26, 2011 Share Posted June 26, 2011 Dunno, in my experience, it's best to not tell the guy you're interested. It just scares them off. Guys are supposed to be the pursuers, the chasers, etc. I don't always follow this and I have no regrets about telling the guy I like that I like him, but girls tend to be hurt a lot easier than guys. Because we're not normally the chasers, we get hurt easier and deal with rejection a lot worse. Just watch the movie "What Women Want". It's heartbreaking to see one of the girls get rejected. Guys have way more options, where as girls are 10 times more picky. Probably why it is the way it is. why do you think on dating sites the girls always respond less and the guys are sending out tons of messages. Anyway...if you're okay with rejection, go for it. But personally...I'd rather not know and just let the guy come to me. So far, no guy I'm actually interested in has ever come to me. Just guys I'm not. Link to post Share on other sites
Author confusedgirl85 Posted June 26, 2011 Author Share Posted June 26, 2011 Thanks for your advice, i guess you're right girls deal worse with rejection. But Im starting to think that if i dont let any guy know directly im interested i wont get to be with any. The ones that go out for me im just not interested in. Well i guess ill leave it just like that for a couple of weeks trying not to initiate any contact and we'll see what happens then. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 26, 2011 Share Posted June 26, 2011 relationships that start in a bar usually end in a bar Link to post Share on other sites
Author confusedgirl85 Posted June 27, 2011 Author Share Posted June 27, 2011 Yeah i guess thats why men deal a lot better with rejection than us but i think this guy is really worth the risk of getting a rejection from him. I know i met him at a bar but because of a mutual friend not because he was looking for a girl there. I see in him a guy who knows exactly what he wants, a hardworking guy who has the drive to become whatever he wants, he is smart, funny and not bad looking so thats why im wondering if i should tell him directly that i like him. Link to post Share on other sites
DreamerGirl27 Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 Thanks for your advice, i guess you're right girls deal worse with rejection. But Im starting to think that if i dont let any guy know directly im interested i wont get to be with any. The ones that go out for me im just not interested in. Well i guess ill leave it just like that for a couple of weeks trying not to initiate any contact and we'll see what happens then. Thanks. Every guy that's been interested in me, I have never been interested in. I hear women say this a lot. Link to post Share on other sites
Sweetheartt Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 Every guy that's been interested in me, I have never been interested in. I hear women say this a lot. Because its true lol. I get guys I cant stand looking at me yada yada and they usually fugly! The really cute ones just stand around except the jerks that go for anything. I say u need to just show him u like him with a kiss. Link to post Share on other sites
Author confusedgirl85 Posted June 27, 2011 Author Share Posted June 27, 2011 Because its true lol. I get guys I cant stand looking at me yada yada and they usually fugly! The really cute ones just stand around except the jerks that go for anything. I say u need to just show him u like him with a kiss. Wooow... with a kiss never crossed my mind, i was thinking more of asking him to go out with me sometime and tell him there that i like him or something like that. I know a kiss cant be interpreted in any other way but thats just not me at all .... Link to post Share on other sites
Sweetheartt Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 Wooow... with a kiss never crossed my mind, i was thinking more of asking him to go out with me sometime and tell him there that i like him or something like that. I know a kiss cant be interpreted in any other way but thats just not me at all .... I never just blab to a guy that I like him ugghhh lol. I just drop a bunch of hints and they always catch on. Sometimes I dont drop any hints and the guys still imagine that I do lol. Link to post Share on other sites
Author confusedgirl85 Posted June 27, 2011 Author Share Posted June 27, 2011 I never just blab to a guy that I like him ugghhh lol. I just drop a bunch of hints and they always catch on. Sometimes I dont drop any hints and the guys still imagine that I do lol. Well past two weeks since i met him i've been dropping a lot of hints. Things such as compliments on looks, on his career, i've said i've had a great time after being with him, i said next movie was on me, etc... i think i've dropped many hints for him to realize that i like him. Now im at the point of checking my BB every second to see if he's texted me or something Link to post Share on other sites
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