alexishurt Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 I need help!! I have been a a relationship for almost 5 years. It didn't start to good, he was still living with his ex. I don know why I started dating him, I guess I like helping people when they have issues but now i'm the one with the issues and can't get out of this situation. My family didn't like him from the begining, he has had 3 other relationships where he had children and ended up not working. He has Anger Management issues and he has had professional help. It worked for a while but now he is starting to be the same of maybe its just me. I feel very sensitive and many comments hurt my feelings. I have many excusses for not wanting to have sex with him any more, or at least that is what he says. I have gained 30 pounds making me 159 which makes me uncomfortable, he doesnt try to romance me he just expects me to be ready for him every night, I feel that I have lost respect for him because its very easy for him to just tell me off like it was normal. This hurts my feelings very much and i'm just not quick on saying anything back to him. I know he had a lot of issues when he was growing up, I was blessed to be raised with 2 very loving parents that treated each other with respect. I wish I had the courage to do something about my situation but I lack the guts at this moment, I don't have a job and he likes to throw that in my face all the time. Also when he does something for me , i don't hear the end of it when he wants to argue. All I ask from him is respect, and that he refrain from cussing when he speaks to me even if he's not angry. Is this too much to ask for?? I have issues of my own, but I feel like he doesn't care or wants to hear me. He tells me that if we don't have sex everyday that this is not a relationship and that I should leave. I have packed my things several times in the last 5 months. I feel weak and tired of my situation. I don't know if I want to try to fix it anymore. Please HELP...
oceangrl Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 Do you not have the guts to leave because you don't have a job and your afraid of being alone? Sounds like you have a supportive family, thats a great advantage for you, so you wouldn't be alone if you left because your family is always there. Maybe you could move in with them until you find a job. Its probably hard for you to find a job when you're emotionally drained and trying to fix something that probably won't go anywhere if he's not willing to work with you. Its not your job to help him with his problems. Help yourself first...if you can't help yourself with your own problems, why would you help him? ...especially if hes the root of why you're emotionally tired.
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