Felixtheecat Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 My girlfriend broke up with me about 2 months ago and after very little contact with her for about a month I had begun communicating with her again. Here is my back story for those interested http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t275147/ We had talked or pc chatted for the last couple of weeks. Some communication was good and a few times not bad, but shakey. I had been missing the dog we shared so she allowed me to take it for a walk and play with it earlier this week. When I took the dog back we talked briefly, she expressed that she felt like talking or enjoying my company, I gave her a long hug and said goodbye. A few nights later I had made way too much food and called her and asked her if she wanted any. She accepted and when i went to drop it off the dog got excited to see me. My ex said she was PMSing and so I told her I could walk the dog for her. Not only did she allow that, but she came with. When we got back to her apartment she invited me to chat some more. After about an hour I left. Both times I saw her we were both in good spirits and everything seemed fine. Then the following day (yesterday) she called me right as she got off work and asked me if I had time to chat. All of a sudden she started crying and asked me how I could be so composed or handling the the break up so well. I told her that I have a lot of hard days, but she kept saying that she didn't felt like I understood how hard things were on her and that I was handling things better. She then told me how she always tried to make me happy and that I just never seemed happy period moreless with her. She also started voicing the idea that perhaps she had no good qualities to offer me or any other man for that matter. I stayed mostly composed, but still tried to convince her otherwise in many ways. I brought up to her that it hurt me that she said that she didn't ever want to be in a relationship with me again and that I struggled with that thought on a daily basis. She then said that early into the break up she was too distraught to think of believe anything else. After about 10 minutes she said she didn't want to talk about it anymore sounding a little annoyed although she was about to have dinner with her family. She had also mentioned at the beginning of the conversation that she was still PMSing so maybe she was emotional from that. I asked her if I could call her later since I was worried about her. She said she would call me. A few hours later she texted me saying "doing better". She never called me which I knew would be the case when i got that message. I called her today and left her a message. She still hasn't called me. What the hell? I love her dearly and want to be with her again at some point. I don't really even know what to make of yesterday. I don't know when she'll decide to call, but i'm afraid of saying the wrong thing. Was her words proof of progress or the opposite?
EgoJoe Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 You eased her guilt and then exposed to her that you weren't handling super well. Don't call again or text. If she calls, ignore. GO NC until she calls again and again an again. If she doesn't, don't bother. Don't fight the advice. I did and I got burnt. VANISH. She needs to miss you.
Author Felixtheecat Posted June 26, 2011 Author Posted June 26, 2011 You eased her guilt and then exposed to her that you weren't handling super well. Don't call again or text. If she calls, ignore. GO NC until she calls again and again an again. If she doesn't, don't bother. Don't fight the advice. I did and I got burnt. VANISH. She needs to miss you. My only fear of this is that these ideas she had about me essentially finding her qualities of low worth or ignorable would be reaffirmed by being calm or nonchalant. You don't think this is a possibility? If not then I will certainly heed your advice
Johnny85 Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 Hi Felix, I, personally, do not have any advice for you than that you have already read. I do, however, recommend that you read the thread about the "Law of Attraction." This is also covered in detail in "The Secret." Second of all, I would read Iceweasel's thread; he has some great advice to share. Finally, I would give her some space for a while. By constantly showering her with attention, you are essentially pushing her away. Good luck!
jonymac001 Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 Do you have the latest software update installed on your IS? The first release of Gingerbread had a wifi issue which meant that the phone dropped wifi signals that were lower than -88dbm; the latest software update fixes the issue.
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