JR2315 Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 I miss her sooooo much and I cant stop thinking about her! I miss the way that I would tell her that I love her and then give her a kiss on her forehead. I especially miss just talking to her about my day and how she would tell me hers. Ughh its been over 3 weeks contact and im relapsing for some reason. It sucks because it would have been easier if she told me that she didnt love me. But she decided to break up with me due to the fact that she wants to find inner happiness first. What makes things worse is I know she loves me and will come to my aid if something were to happen to me at this very moment. She is literally on my mind for the entire day! This is so depressing.....
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 have you tried working out? (lifting weights or cardio), you need to keep yourself busy as much as you can. Yes, you will probably be thinking about her while you stay busy but it will keep you from breaking NC and in turn, speed up your healing. I know it's hard but you need to tough it out and move on.
thelovingkind Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 Don't worry, relapsing happens to everyone, no matter how experienced they are or how self-disciplined or how well they deal with the post-break up situation. I did absolutely everything right this time: no contact from day zero; small amounts of good social contact with friends; not meeting up with anyone I was attracted to (to completely avoid any chance of rebound); spending plenty of time alone, accepting my sadness and letting myself cry it out anytime I needed. I wanted it to be a textbook case of how to cope. And yet here I am relapsing with you. A week ago I hadn't cried for a while and went on a first date feeling pretty good (but not too good) about the idea of being out there again, and I felt almost ready to let my ex go. A week later I spent twenty minutes crying my eyes out on a walk home, harder and sadder than at any point prior. Right this moment it feels like I'm feeling no better than day two or three of no contact. I'm right there with you It's so frustrating, dispiriting, demoralising - especially when you've tried and mostly succeeded at doing everything the right way.
Author JR2315 Posted June 25, 2011 Author Posted June 25, 2011 Your attitude is definitely something that inspires me. I really need to get at your level and just focus on myself. But its easier said than done for sure. Letting go of the person you love the most is the most difficult thing that i'll have to do.
scarlett27 Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 you cant allow urself to dwell or romantise i agree with someone else on here , keep busy , go out with friends , learn a new subject , read books watch a film the key is keeping busy x
EgoJoe Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 This will hurt but she has had another guy's dick in her mouth since she said she wants to find her inner happiness...do I know for sure? No. But, she wasn't a perfect angel. I feel cruel for saying that but ONCE you get them off the pedestal it gets easier.
Author JR2315 Posted June 26, 2011 Author Posted June 26, 2011 I feel cruel for saying that but ONCE you get them off the pedestal it gets easier. Youre right. The thing I find hard to do is finding a balance wherein I can take them of the pedestal while not completely hating them.
EgoJoe Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 I don't hate my ex at all bro. She did ALOT for me but she went the way of....unimportant. Don't hate, be real. Hopefully JasonRules will come around and holler at you about this.
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