Mixed28 Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 I know we should not put our happiness into other people. But being happy and single does not compare to being with someone you love. I do go out and have fun with friends but its still not the same. I wish I could get rid of these feelings of wanting companionship. Falling in love for the first time then losing that love was the worst feeling in the world. I don't even know how people get back to being super happy when being single after being in love and left. This is not to say us singles are worthless and nobodys. People say you should be with someone to inhance your happiness. Before meeting my first love I was 100% happy but when I was with her I was 120% happy then she left and now lets say I am 100% happy but I now know that there is something that makes me even more happy that I can't just simply go out and get. I don't even know how people can go out and get someone new so quickly. I have been single for 7 months. I have put myself out there but nothing has happened yet. Just going on a tangent here.
uplifted2 Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 I know how ya feel, my ex girlfriend broke up with me a month ago and it hursts like hell. I too have been out with friends, but it just doesn't feel the same.....especially when I see all these happy couples around and when most of my friends are either engaged or married, but these are the cards we were dealt with and we have no choice, but to play them. I do agree that I feel that I'm happier when I'm in a relationship but I have also realized that the longer I sob over losing her the longer I will be single, so lets get out here and mingle!
eg88 Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 I suggest Co-Dependents Anonymous meetings and Love and Sex addicts Anonymous meetings, you can look them up online and find meetings in your area. I've been to both of them, they are nice places to go when you have that "longing for love" feeling.
just_scott Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 THOSE ''love and sex addicts' annonomus groups '' you mentioned they have single women their ??? just tryin to lighten the mood here
lovesickmonkey Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 I was just having the same thought. When you love someone, you don't care where you go or what you are doing. It's being together that makes every night so great. Now, no matter where I go or what I'm doing, as you have said, you know it could be better. It takes the steam out of me thinking I have to start all over again and work my way back to that place.
Author Mixed28 Posted June 25, 2011 Author Posted June 25, 2011 I was just having the same thought. When you love someone, you don't care where you go or what you are doing. It's being together that makes every night so great. Now, no matter where I go or what I'm doing, as you have said, you know it could be better. It takes the steam out of me thinking I have to start all over again and work my way back to that place. The steam being before you met her?
thelovingkind Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 I know we should not put our happiness into other people. But being happy and single does not compare to being with someone you love. I do go out and have fun with friends but its still not the same. I wish I could get rid of these feelings of wanting companionship. Falling in love for the first time then losing that love was the worst feeling in the world. I don't even know how people get back to being super happy when being single after being in love and left. This is not to say us singles are worthless and nobodys. People say you should be with someone to inhance your happiness. Before meeting my first love I was 100% happy but when I was with her I was 120% happy then she left and now lets say I am 100% happy but I now know that there is something that makes me even more happy that I can't just simply go out and get. I don't even know how people can go out and get someone new so quickly. I have been single for 7 months. I have put myself out there but nothing has happened yet. Just going on a tangent here. Every word mirrors my own experience exactly. Before I fell in love for the first time I was independent, free-spirited and all the rest. Since then I've actually had better times being single than I did before falling in love. I've lived in the moment more and made the most of everything. But once you know those feelings of being in a good relationship it is so, so hard to go back to being TRULY content on your own. Yes, you have time to "find yourself", you can practice "personal growth" and "self-development" and all those other morose-sounding activities, but it's just not the same.
lovesickmonkey Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 The steam being before you met her? Yes. When I think I have to go back to where I was before we met, I find the idea so discouraging. It's going to be a long time before I actively look for someone new. It's going to be a long time before I stop comparing every woman I meet to her.
Author Mixed28 Posted June 26, 2011 Author Posted June 26, 2011 Every word mirrors my own experience exactly. Before I fell in love for the first time I was independent, free-spirited and all the rest. Since then I've actually had better times being single than I did before falling in love. I've lived in the moment more and made the most of everything. But once you know those feelings of being in a good relationship it is so, so hard to go back to being TRULY content on your own. Yes, you have time to "find yourself", you can practice "personal growth" and "self-development" and all those other morose-sounding activities, but it's just not the same. Yeah being happy single is not the same as being with your lover. This is not to say we dont love ourselves either. But honestly what would be the point of a relationship if you were just as happy being single?
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