smokiejjj Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 Hi, I've been going out with a great girl for a year. She is perfect in that she can be trusted, is responsible, we have good time going out together, rarely argue, looks after me. Only thing is I've been a sex addict before and tend to be attracted to melodramatic princess types, models, fake tits type of girls. However all these relationships have ended in pain. Most of these girls I find are great in bedroom but life is hell outside of it. So I'm thinking if I should marry the girl I'm with now. I think yes but always wonder if I'm making a mistake. We do have sex but I fantasy about other women. Any advice ?
soulm8 Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 Please do her a HUGE favor and let her find someone who LOVES her.
Author smokiejjj Posted June 25, 2011 Author Posted June 25, 2011 Please do her a HUGE favor and let her find someone who LOVES her. Why ? She is HAPPY with me. I tried to break up once and she didn't want me to leave.
scarlett27 Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 i would hate to date someone like you , you sound so shallow poor cow that is stuck with u let her go
soulm8 Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 Why ? She is HAPPY with me. I tried to break up once and she didn't want me to leave. She's emotionally attached to you. It sounds like you'll end up cheating on her or at least make her feel inadequate in the bedroom. Unfortunately, it sounds like she thinks your relationship (and attraction) will grow stronger with time... I don't get that sense from you at all. I see a similarity to my own failed marriage here... please don't marry someone you don't adore and would never dream of hurting. It gets very messy and complicated especially after you've started a family together.
soulm8 Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 The RIGHT thing for you to do is to break up with her and let her know that you're doing so because she deserves better. What you describe is not love. Please do not marry her. Set her free before your lives get complicated.
scarlett27 Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 grow up she will get over u - dont flatter urself
Author smokiejjj Posted June 25, 2011 Author Posted June 25, 2011 The RIGHT thing for you to do is to break up with her and let her know that you're doing so because she deserves better. What you describe is not love. Please do not marry her. Set her free before your lives get complicated. I have a feeling though if I stopped fooling around with another woman, I would become more attracted to her.
soulm8 Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 I have a feeling though if I stopped fooling around with another woman, I would become more attracted to her. Gimme a break! Are you for real man? You're such a catch...
scarlett27 Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 you sound ugly mate real ugly your attitude just dump her and sit in front of a mirror
Woggle Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 Do the right thing and break it off with her. It is not fair to her to continue when you are not into it. After that try to figure out why you are attracted to nutcases.
stepka Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 I have a feeling though if I stopped fooling around with another woman, I would become more attracted to her. No you wouldn't. You'd just get involved with someone else. You should let her go. Yes, I know she doesn't want you to go, but you should never settle for someone you're not attracted to and she should find someone who really does love her. I don't believe in marrying someone b/c you "should." If you're more attracted to the other types, that's the types you should go for, or you'll just cheat. You may anyway, but at least no one innocent will get hurt.
sabienne Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 Let me get this straight... I quote from you "If I STOPPED fooling around with other women" So you are currently cheating on this girl and you're contemplating whether you should marry her? You, my friend, are not ready for marriage. She might be, but you aren't, and she deserves a guy that isn't screwing fake, plastic looking women on the side.
Feelin Frisky Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 Look at it this way, you know you have a problem that's strictly within you. Everyone is totally entitled to their fantasies IMO. If you resolve to live where you keep fantasy separated from reality you CAN enjoy both at the same time. It is however a thoroughly hurtful thing to tell someone you are fantasizing about whatever else gets you hot. If you're otherwise proud to be with this woman, go everywhere with her and treat her with utmost respect and loyalty, show her to anyone as your wife, then it is OK to marry her and god bless. I'd saw off a leg for that right now. I think it's the exception to have the perfect relationship and getting someone who'll walk with you to the grave is nothing to just cast aside for some fake tits.
BetheButterfly Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 (edited) Why ? She is HAPPY with me. I tried to break up once and she didn't want me to leave. Be brutally honest with her and show her what you wrote below, and see if she is still happy with you and still doesn't want you to leave. Or, be honest with her in a nice way and just tell her that you like a different kind of woman, and that she is not for you. Or, change your outlook on women, and focus on the beauty of the soul more than the beauty of surgery-altered bodies. Hi, I've been going out with a great girl for a year. She is perfect in that she can be trusted, is responsible, we have good time going out together, rarely argue, looks after me. Only thing is I've been a sex addict before and tend to be attracted to melodramatic princess types, models, fake tits type of girls. However all these relationships have ended in pain. Most of these girls I find are great in bedroom but life is hell outside of it. So I'm thinking if I should marry the girl I'm with now. I think yes but always wonder if I'm making a mistake. We do have sex but I fantasy about other women. Any advice ? Edited June 26, 2011 by BetheButterfly
BetheButterfly Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 Let me get this straight... I quote from you "If I STOPPED fooling around with other women" So you are currently cheating on this girl and you're contemplating whether you should marry her? You, my friend, are not ready for marriage. She might be, but you aren't, and she deserves a guy that isn't screwing fake, plastic looking women on the side. Oh! Yeah, Please do not marry her. You will only hurt her.
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