Shadesofgray Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 OK I am in need of some advice. Background..my boyfriend and I have been dating 4 months...I haven't cared about anyone as much as him in a long longgg time. Things have been really good with us...no major problems. Well he works two jobs so during the week we usually text at night until one of falls asleep. Last night he stopped texting pretty early on but had said he had just gone to walmart to get some fishing stuff for today. Well today I find out that he went by a bar after walmart with my best friend's brother. My best friends husband works at this bar and he told her that my boyfriend was there..and that he specifically told him not to me he was there. He didn't text me for the rest of the night last night. I am bothered by the fact that one...you couldn't text me all night because...you were at a bar? and then obviously because he lied...intentionally making sure I didn't know he was there. He wasn't with another girl or anything..his reasoning for not telling me i'm sure is that he didn't want to hurt my feelings that he didn't want me to go I guess?? I have never been the type of girl to question where he was...or to ever complain about him wanting to do other things so...it's not because I was being clingy or anything. I really don't understand why he felt the need to lie...because I wouldn't have cared at all if he went. I haven't talked to him yet today..He's on a fishing trip... But when I talk to him I'm not sure what to say...or if I should just end it. It's just kind of shady...and lying is my biggest pet peeve...and then at the same time I really do love him. I am so hurt and dissapointed.
ALLDAYMJ Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 Just keep your eyes open. It may be too much for him too soon.
joshgosh Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 Not break up worthy, no. But maybe he finds the texting each night a bit much? He might see it as sort of checking up on him and just wanted to escape from that for a night. T'm a guy, that's how I would feel
Author Shadesofgray Posted June 25, 2011 Author Posted June 25, 2011 Just keep your eyes open. It may be too much for him too soon. Yeah I thought about that too it's just that he has been the one initiating things...like he told me he loved me first..stuff like that.
scarlett27 Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 i would be very very suspicous of this behaviour , lying is never acceptable u need to get to the botoom of this or u will forever be wondering where he is at if he is lying this early on then its not a good sign
Author Shadesofgray Posted June 25, 2011 Author Posted June 25, 2011 Not break up worthy, no. But maybe he finds the texting each night a bit much? He might see it as sort of checking up on him and just wanted to escape from that for a night. T'm a guy, that's how I would feel That makes sense...I just wish he had been honest with me and told me that..instead of being sneaky about it.
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